Today, I got early from school and me and my best friend were in the student parking lot waiting for her ride. I decided to call my boyfriend since it was close to 2Pm ( he had to go to work by that time) and just have a talk before he went to work. OK...so we talk and everything is going fine and then he says that he was very upset since his cousin was suppose to do a favor for him and ended up bailing out. So, he was running late to work because of that. Well, my friend started laughing and talking to me saying " look at that car!" and I took a look and saw that the cardoor was shut and was carrying a Mcdonalds bag. ( you had to see it to have a laugh). So, I giggled and my boyfriend hung up. I felt that something was wrong.It hit me. I put my phone on my pocket and since it was on silent I dint know that about a minute later I missed his call so called him back. He told me " you better not be going anywhere because knowing you....." and said " I am not. I am just going straight home." NExt thing you know he hangs up again! I knew we were going to argue about something..AGAIN, so I put my phone in my pocket and just waited to get home. I get home and I again noticed I missed his call, I call him and he starts saying " So now you call me that your friend left. What kind of ------ is that etc." He started cursing and I am very sensitive that kind of stuff. The next thing you know...yeah...he hangs up. He calls back and starts going off on me. Cursing, yelling and telling me that I have no reason to call him if I was just going to be ignoring him. The point is, I started to cry heavily. I dont like being treated wrong and I cry easily in that circumstace. This hasent been the first time he has yelled, cursed at me, mad me feel bad and made me cry...it's just that when we have our good times I feel so happy and like I have met my other half...but when we get into rough times like these....they are the worst. What should I do??? and what's wrong with him? and how could I help him with his attitude?
Posts: 16 | From: vista CA , USA | Registered: Oct 2005
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Well, it is very wrong of him to talk to you in that way. Im sure you are a nice girl and dont deserve to be talked to in that way. Its really your decision on staying with him. If you truly love him, try to work things out. Tell him that you dont like the way he treats you at times, and that you would like him to change that. See how that goes and if not, then maybe hes not for you. No one deserves to get treated like crap like that. Im sure that if you acted that way with him, he wouldnt like it at all. Dont let him talk to you all stupid either because if he sees that you dont say anything back and just let it slide, hes going to continue to talk to you like that. Tell him off,,,let ur voice be heard! Hope I helped girl, I wish you the best on trying to work out your relationship.
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He's causing you some pretty bad emotional turmoil over something trivial. You said this isn't the first time. It's raising red flags for me. I'd call that emotional abuse.
What should you do? Not tolerate it. What's wrong with him? It's only speculation, but it could be his insecurities. How can you help him? Darlin, help yourself. No one deserves to be talked to like that. His being possessive, making you cry...it's not okay, period.
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