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Okay well here is my problem:

I have been with my boyfriend for about just over 8 months, and I have liked him for about 4 years, he has been my longest crush yet!! We had already broken up one for about a week for comlicated reasons, but they pretty much passed and I decided to have another go of it, and see if things work out better. Things started off great again, and it seemed like things were going so much better than before, but lately I am feeling like, I dont love him as much as I used to, but I actually have no good reason to feel like that because he hasnt done anything wrong or anything like that.
And the even bigger problem is, I have started to have feelings for some other guy, but what makes it even worse is that, I dont really know that he even likes me the way I do him, I think he might just see me as a friend, but I cant know for sure where it would go because I dont really spend that much time with him one on one. I just get nervous and I cant really talk to him how I'd like...BUT even if he did like me, I dont know if he would take it anywhere because he is friends with my bf!!!

I dont know if I should break up with my bf coz, we were all out last night and we had some drinks and he got to an emotional stage and started to cry and saying he loved me and that I was the best thing that happened to him and so on and so forth! So, if I was to break up with him a second time, not only would he be in a wreck, but I would probably have all him mates, which are mine at the moment, mad at me or turn against me in some way!! And I dont want that!! Especially seeing as they were there last night saying that me and him were great together and that we shouldnt break up again!!
What do I do??? Someone pleeeease help me!!! Thanks! x

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You know, it's perfectly okay *not* to be in a relationship. Also, breaking up one relationship to pursue another isn't the best idea, either, especially if the new person is a friend of the ex. Bridges get unnecessarily burned, and more than one relationship is ruined.

Why do you have feelings for another guy? How have they impacted your current relationship?

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