He tells me that Julie is just a really good friend, something that he's never really had. I want to believe him, but suddenly I'm so skeptical of everything he says. The other day I got a text message saying we needed to talk, that we were ok for right now, but there was a lot on his mind. We havent talked yet. He came over sick yesterday and we exchanged x-mas gifts but didnt want to talk because he didnt feel good.

The only other thing i can suggest to you is to talk to him about this ... Tell him that while you realize he has a lot going on right now, you really need to talk to him, and be reassured that your relationship is still okay. If it's not okay, you two need to talk about whether it can be fixed or whether it needs to end.

I realize that you're nervous to talk to him about this incase he decides to end things, but wouldn't it be better to know exactly what's going on?

I also know that you're right I should talk to him. I just wish I was more prepared. So I could go into strong, knowing I wouldn't cry. Ya know? If he says he likes Julie I want to have responses that will make him think, make him think how much he loves me. I know he does. He just gets scared that we've been together so long that he could get hurt, so he'll want out to protect himself or something. I don't know, I guess I'm asking too much here. No one can tell me what to say. But if anyone has any good points I should bring up, or ways to stay strong so I don't melt into tears, that'd be wonderful.

Thanks again!

That's all you can do though. Just like no one can tell you how you feel, you can't tell him how he feels. Maybe he is scared of getting hurt ... Only he knows that for sure. Ask him.

But what works for me is just to breathe deeply, speak slowly, and just listen to wat ur both sayin. Don't only keep in mind how much its gonna hurt u but think about the situation itself. Don't dwell too much on ur emotions because they're constantly changing. Something u really don't have control over.

As much as i do know about the situation...maybe a break would be good for the both of u. Maybe you need some time apart so u can miss each other.

I got an e-mail from him and it just made me feel that he's confused. He doesn't know where his lifes going and I'm moving on to college so he's overwhelmed. And that he's been unhappy with us for a while. But he loves me and doesn't want to hurt me. I still have the feeling he wants out.

But i feel that u deserve to be with someone whos absolutely sure they wanna be with u. Its not fun to be the person who gets treated like a toy and only gets played with when they feel like playin with u.

Of course it hurts to be seperated from the one u love. Especially if u make them the center of world (which thru experience i learned is a really bad mistake). But i also learned the hardest part is to let go. Sometimes u don't know what u have until its not there anymore and maybe some time apart would show u both how to appreciate one another more.

Hopefully u have lots of supportive friends to help u thru this if it turns out hurtful but if not i can give u my email and u can always talk to me =)

I suggested a break and thats what we finally decided on. I don't know. He's so afraid of hurting me but thats what he's doing now.