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im in a really bad situation.

ok my girlfriend recently told me about how bad things are at home. i always knew she had been through alot and things were all that great, but she just recently told me how bad things go.

ok, her dad and mom are divorsed and before they were her dad used to beat her entire family and is a sex offender. she now lives with her sister, mom and brother. her sister makes fun of her and degrades her and her mom and brother abuse her!! i dont know what to do. when she first told me about her brother the first thing i thought was im gonna kill him, but then i realzed that if i beat him up it could just make things worse on her. i tried to convince her to see someone or do something that could get her out of the situaation, but she refuses. now i already thought about telling someone like a svhool counseler about it and he could help her, but she is extreamily stuborn and would deny it all and that would also worsen matters. and even if it did work, and they did take her out of the house, they would put her with her father who would prob. end up raping her! no one ever found out that he is a child molester, and he would be seen as a "suitable" parent, when he is actualy nothing more than scum. i dont know what to do, but i cant just leave her in that situation. its slowly breaking her down.

im about at the point where im just gonna save up money, and then run away with her (thats not gonna happen, i would do it but there is no way she would) please help me help her

thank you so much

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Unfortuneatly, there's little you can do to help her if she's unwilling to help herself. Telling your schools' guidance counselor is a very good idea, but if she takes it all back, they really can't help her either.

So the best thing you can do for her now is to encourage her to speak to someone. Tell her that you'll go with her to the guidance counselor if she wants you to, and that you'll do whatever you can to help her. Encourage her to go into some sort of counseling, and maybe she'll gain strength to speak up and do what needs to be done to get herself out of this situation.

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