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Ok like a while ago i wrote about having problems with my bf. I said that i think i was falling for my Best Friend named Romeo. I was told on here 2 let thr flames die down with Romeo if i really wanted 2 be with my bf. So i did and it made me realize how much i cared about my bf. But the new problem is my bf always bring up Romeo when we are on the phone. And i just felt bad because he was like i know if we break up your going 2 start going out with Romeo. And i felt bad because i dont want him to think that i would do that 2 him. So i got him a christmas gift and i wrote him a note saying that i hope he dont ever think that i would ever cheat on him and if we did break up that i would not go with Romeo. Him and Romeo are cool with each other. And when ever me and my bf are together and Romeo comes around he gives me a look and it's just ockward. But i feel gulity even though nothing never real happened between me and Romeo. I dont know if i was wrong or what happend. I just want my bf 2 stop bringing up Romeo and useing Romeo aginst me, but he might be doing that because he think i like Romeo. But he told me he dosent think that i like Romeo so i dont know whats going on or what to do.
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Crushes come and go. Even if you're dating, it doesn't suddenly make you blind to other people. The way to handle it is to not act on those crushes when it can get you into trouble. You've made the choice to not pursue your crush on Romeo and stick with your guy. That takes strength and it's worth praising. Good for you.
The thing you gotta do now is TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND to knock it off with the Romeo stuff. He's clearly insecure. But you've already told him you made your choice. So now you gotta say it loud and clear that you want his trust, and his sniping really hurts your feelings. Drive in that last point: your feelings are being hurt, and that's not okay. People who care about each other don't take pot shots and hurt each other.
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