Ok, so i started talking to this guy a while ago and started spending more time with him and his friends. For months ive pretty much been crazy about him, and was so glad when i found out he liked me. Now we're going out and it was fine, and then suddenly its all changed... i suddenly just dont feel much of a connection, it feels less easy to talk to him, even though i want to see him i just all of a sudden dont feel like i did! I get the feeling i might be expecting too much so early on, i cant tell. He's a lovely guy, but i cant work out whats changed...im just wondering if this is something that happens, and have an outsider's point of view because i dont know whats going on.
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hey musical_gal, has this happened to you before? there might be a chance that it's not related to him in particular but in the way your instinct works. what I mean is, you might have lost interest in him because you found out that he is interested in you and you got what you wanted, so now you don't feel as "hyper" about this as you used to (because you got your wish). if this is the case, then note that it's a typical human reaction (nothing "bitchy" about it :P) and in order to deal with it you should remind yourself all the things you like about him and why you wanted to be with him in the first place, and just enjoy every moment you guys spend together because who knows how long it will last (one can never be sure!).
so to sum up, if everything is ok, don't get bored and start looking for new problematic/ambiguous situations to get yourself into; just enjoy your great relationship
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