Like I said in my post what now 2 my friend is recently single and i am in love with him. Well I kept getting sad talking to him and he kept asking why, and I didn't want to tell him why so I told him the story while making a few alterations like how long I have known him, age, and name. I called him Steve and he said it sounded like I wasn't in love with Steve, that it was just lust (which kinda crushed me) then he said maybe I should tell Steve how I feel. I told him I didn't want to ruin our friendship incase he didn't feel the same way, and he said friendship is very powerful and could with stand almost anything (which was very encouraging) and now I feel really bad for lying to him. I told him I would tell Steve, but then when he asked how it went I told him that Steve was gay and that I was heartbroken and that it as the worst feeling in the world. I can't stand the guilt and decided to tell him, so I said we needed to go out for coffee and that he had to prepare hmself. I plan on telling him about Steve and that I have feelings for him, but am a little scared. I understand that it needs to happen, but was thinking of waiting till he was a little less heartbroken. I can't stand the guilt though and my feelings are burning they need out. So I am looking for any advice on the matter.
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There's a lot of drama here. That needs to be go immediately.
In this case, I think you're on the right track when you want to tell your friend what's really going on. You've invented a very elaborate story for him and the longer you let him believe those lies the harder it's going to be for him to trust you when you do tell him. Get everything out in the open, the sooner the better.
In the future it's probably best not to say anything at all if you can't be honest about how you feel.
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