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um..whenever im making out with my girlfriend, i seem to get..u know,those male features..i seem to get a hard on evrytime! thing is..im justa bit curious..coz like, wheneva we are kissing, we're kinda close to each other. Real close. i sometimes..okay..ALWAYS get really embarassed whenever this happens..ESPECIALLY when my girlfriends right on top of "me"! just needed to know... like, i KNOW SHE NOTICES MY "emotional pressure"..do you think im grossing her out? FYI, no she hasnt reacted to any of these events..well..iv noticed that she kinda "embraces" me..like kinda "ride". i dunno. or is it the possibility that kissing turns her on? either ways she seems not to pay too much attention whenever this situation arises..still, i am realy very ashamed of myself in these cases. we dont generally talk about such issues which is why im referring to the net. basically my Q is- is my girlfriend turned on evrytime i have an erection (which she can feel)? or is that since she loves me and all, she avoids the topic ( its like a topic not worth discussing to her)entirely coz she doesnt like it? i really wana know if she feels comfortable with my biological side...and honestly, i really hope she does. wat u think?
Posts: 5 | From: nadi,fiji islands | Registered: Oct 2005
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You know, your grilfriend probably has a "hard-on," too. You just can't feel it. The clitoris becomes egorged, larger and harder with arousal, just like the penis does, it's simply far smaller, so less noticeable.
Point is that BOTH men and women exhibit symptoms of arousal. And if your girlfriend is continually kissing you, then yes, it's safe to say it turns her on. Why else would she do it?
YOU having an erection isn't something that necessitats a turn-on everytime for your parner. Certainly, partners are often aroused by one another's arousal, but it's not as if she's unaroused and then BOOM, you get an erection and she's suddenly excited.
Erection is totally normal, and nothing to be ashamed of. It may be you it hasn't been brought up by her because she knows that. But if you're engaging in some forms of sex, like "dry sex," which you are, then silence isn't your pal. It's time to start nurturing dialogue about sex with your partner. Why not start with this topic with an opening like, "Hey, sometimes when I get erections when we're making out, I worry it makes you uncomfortable and I feel a bit funny about it. Do you feel okay with it?"
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Well, this sorta sounds like my past situation with my boyfriend. I had always wanted to know if he was into me and if I turned him on, but we never talked about it... I guess he was embarassed like yourself, but it always left me feeling like I wasn't good enough. Eventually he started talking about how it and how I always gave him one from kissing. I was excited I could do that to him lol. I like getting on top of him during a steamy kiss, it doesn't bother me at all that he has an erection. My advice is to just tell your girl and make it seem like she's so good she caused that. It's nothing to be embarrassed or grossed out about! It's your body and it's totally normal. Talk to her about it!
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i know from experience with kissing my bf, that it really turns me on when i notice his hard on when we are kissing. it reminds me of how into me he is. it just really makes me want him more. i like it. you shouldnt be embarrassed about this at all.
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