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Trumpetforlife
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This is my first year in high school, and I'm in band. There is this other girl in the mellophone ( a mellophone is like a trumnpet but bigger) section that I have completely fallen for. Every time i'm around her I feel wonderful about myself and am desperate to spend more time with her. Thing is there are two major roadblocks.

The first is that she is a junior and a little less then 2 years older then me. I've heard of girls going out with older guys but what about the opposite? I'm not sure what she would think about it.

The second is a real biggy. She is currently going out with a guy whom she has been with for 11 months. I've seen them together and they REALLY like each other. It seems like I have a snowball's chance in hell of the two of them breaking up.

Luckily we're friends so it's now like I've never even talked to her or anything but I'm not sure how to tell her. Could our friendship possibly survive if she knew?


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ladydexter
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Firstly. This girl is already taken. That would make her off-limits. If you think telling her you fancy her would damage your friendship, don't tell her. Keep it quiet and enjoy what you have.

Secondly, girls do go out with younger men. I've done it several times. There's really no basis to even imagine that women won't go for anything younger. You've heard the expresion "toy boy", right?

Of course, that's a moot point considering she's already in a relationship.


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Trumpetforlife
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Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I know, there's no point in trying to get her because she already has a boyfriend. No need to get the impression that I'm trying to take her from her boyfriend though, he's a nice guy and I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings. I just wish I could forget about her.
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Rage
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I had your same problem. I am in love with my friend too. I waited patiently for a year waiting for him and his girlfriend to break up, and they did 3 weeks ago. But now he is heartbroken and I don't care who he is with as long as he is happy, but after a little bit I realised that they were not getting back together. The only thing is now I don't know if he actually likes me and he has been kinda implying that he has no intrest lately. My other friend says maybe he is only doing that because he doesn't know how I feel, but I have no clue. But he is actually 6 years older than me, and keeps asking what is wrong so I am gonna tell him. What I am saying to you is don't give up hope, I am in love and I waited patiently and it happened, thats not the hard part though, it is only the first step down the winding path.
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