from our sexpert and all around wise woman Gumdrop Girl
The following information was given to me by a classmate of mine who works extensively with battered women, but it all applies to both men and women.
Read ths following and if you check two or more on this list, you are in a relationship that is not safe for you.
 My partner is very jealous, gets jealous easily
 My partner follows me around, checks up on me a lot
 My partner tries to control how I dress or who I spend time with (friends, family, coworkers)
 My partner yells, calls me names, puts me down
 I hide things that I think would upset or anger my partner (phone numbers, letters, photos)
 I am afraid to say no to sex
 My partner threatens me, or has threatened me
My partner hits, throws or breaks things when angry
 I am fraid to disagree with my partner
 My partner has pushed, slapped, punched or otherwise hurt me
I feel like my partner's anger is my fault
And some links to check out if you think this applies to you and you need more help:
Break the Cycle - Empowering Youth to End Domestic Violence http://www.break-the-cycle.org/
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence http://www.webmerchant.com/ncadv
I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason, and intellect has intended us to forgo their use.