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I need help with something...I know no one but me can pick the right decision, but I would like some advice atleast.The post I put before about me and my gf, well she is 1 year younger then me, and about to be 2 because I turn 15 in 2 days. Well her mom called and told me she does not want her daughter going out with me because I am too old.I will outline our coversation.

Phone rings-I see gf home on it so I pick up.
Her mom-Is this sean
Me-Yes it is.
Her mom-I am afraid I do not want my daughter to date you because you are too old.
Me-I love your daughter mam, well atleast I think I do.
Her mom-I know but she is only 13 and you are about to be 15.
Me-It should not matter the age if we are in love.
Her mom-I know, it is just a protection thing(silence) I know what boys your age think about, and want to do.
Me-I am not like that, but I will respect your decision.
Her mom-I respect you for that, I have to go now.
We both said bye and thats all there is to the phone call.
Well I was thinking about it for awile and I was leaning towards two decisions.1.Leave them alone and get out of their lifes.2.Talk to her mom&dad, beg them,plead them, and ask them to let me date her again.

From an outsiders point of view. Which do you think I should do. I have never liked any girl more, I realize that now and I want her be in my life. I just don't know which I should do.

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I think you should respect her mother's stance. She is protecting her daughter. She said you shouldn't date--Did she say you couldn't be friends? She can still be in your life.

If you to continue to remain friends, there's no reason that in a few years, when both have you have grown up a bit, that you can't pursue a relationship then.

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I think if you truly have feelings for her, you should try and talk to her parents again. Don't beg and plead, just explain the situation, and that you respect their daughter and would never force her to do anything that she didn't want to do. Also, if sex is not on your mind- tell them that explain that it is not something you are ready for, so that should not be factor in the situation.
However, if they still don't agree, ask them if it is alright for the two of you to remain friends. And do not try to date her behind their backs, that is a sure fire way to lose their trust, and then in a few years if the two of you still want to date, and when the age thing is not so much a factor, they will remember what a good and trustworthy oerson you are.
Hope that helps!

"She's the blade and you're
the paper." ~Sugarcult

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