Much like in your last post, I have got to tell you that you seem to have a pretty funny idea of what " a while" and 'finally" and "getting old" are per actual time which has passed.
In short, few very people -- especially young people -- are going to be able to reliably determine if a relationship is or is not a rebound when a breakup didn't even happen two weeks ago, and the new relationship only began a few days before that. Honestly, doll, if you think you can know that right now, you are seriously kidding yourself. And I'd say that to anyone, of any age.
I agree that being secretive with your Mom isn't a great idea, and being secretive about any sort of relationship tends to be unhealthy and unsatisfying for everyone. But I also think you've got to adjust your patience a bit, and your time-scale (because yes, that is some of what is likely making all of this very melodramatic). It's pretty typical for people of any age not to basically announce a relationship to the public as a reltionship when one's only been dating a couple of weeks, and certainly when the relationship began in dishonesty before the old one was complete.
So, how about you think gradual ALL around? For instance, per your Mom, why not just bring Josh home some night after work and just introduce him as Josh. Start there. If you're going to keep dating, then afterwards, telling her that you're seeing the Josh who she met is who you're seeing is what you'll need to do.
And per stuff with this guy? MOST people anyone will date will treat them very well in the first couple of weeks, and just after a breakup in a relationship that went sour, EVERYONE'S perspective is skewed, and very often, again, for any of us, things with other people can look a lot shinier than they are, especially if you didn't even take five minutes to breathe before relationships.
So, if you are going to keep dating, keeping it DATING and casual for a decent while would be pretty smart.
(And per how your Mom is going to react? I'd say you might want to be prepared for her to perhaps say some of the things you've heard said here, all of which are reasonable. I'm not your Mom, so I'm not about to ride your butt about the age thing -- and if you're not having any sort of sex, legal issues aren't relevant at this point -- but I'd certainly expect her to be wary, especially given you haven't been honest. Parents tend to mistrust anyone who seems to promote their kids to be dishonest, that's typical.)
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