My best friend lets call her Mollie hasnt called me in days. We usually talk atleast every other day. Normally I wouldnt be worried, but something happened the last time I hung out with her, and I think it got her mad and upset at me.

Last wk we were all hanging out. It was me, my boyfriend, my sister, her, and her semi boyfriend (SBF) (as she calls him). Me and my boyfiend were sitting on the couch watching tv, just holding hands. Her and her SBF were on the chair. She mounted him, and he started touching her innapropriately between her legs and started rubbing her. My sister was totally offended by this as it was done in our house, and there was no respect. She made a comment on how she would appreciate it if he wouldnt do that again and how it offended her. Her SBF made a comment about my sister, and I stuck up for my sister saying that its her house and she has the right to say what she does and does not feel confortable around. Whatever this was Wednesday. Today is Monday and I still havent heard from her. She was upset and angry when she left Wednesday night. I havent called her because Ive been super busy this wkend. I wanted to call her today. Ive been asking ppl what I should or shouldnt do. Most ppl said not to called her because she did wrong, and if I call itll seem like Im running after her. But my mom said I should call.

Its upsetting me cuz I dont know what decision to make. I dont feel like calling her cuz she did do something wrong, and she should be the one to make the move and call me and appologize, but she hasnt.

What do I do in a sitch like this?

If you want to elicit a response, you can send her a note tell her you didn't appreciate her actions, and if she was any good friend, she's apologize and not do it again. If you're not mad at Mollie, tell her you're not mad, but you'd still appreciate it if she acknowledged her wrongdoing.

Otherwise, don't go to Mollie. if Mollie's a good pal, values your friendship, and has any courtesy and maturity, she'll know she was wrong and apologize.

I needed advice from my peers. I was getting advice mostly from my parents, and my boyfriend so its good to hear ppl my own ages opinion.

Im very upset with her. And I dont want to go to her. Ill see if she comes and apologize to me, and if she doesnt, then like you said shes not as good of a friend as I thought she was.

The way both your sister AND you acted, in my opinion, was the correct way; they should be conscious that other people may not be down with watching them be so, er, intimate. It was disrespectful of them to disregard you and your sister's request to stop...not to mention odd and obnoxious (my opinion...I don't mean to be overly judgemental...but I'm just laying out there) that they (he? SBF?) would get so defensive about your sister expressing her discomfort...You're right; it is your house and these two, not only as guests but as FRIENDS, should at least respect your wishes...

This is why when you call, I would not suggest apologizing. Don't feel like you need to apologize unless you feel like you've done something wrong (and I don't think that YOU think that you have...ugh, bad sentence).
...and there's no shame in running after her, espeically if she is a valuable friend of yours. You're not really calling her because YOU did something wrong, but because your friendship with her is important to you. You can talk to her about this (as it sounds like you really haven't had an oppurtunity to converse civally about all this)...tell her that you felt disrespected by a good friend and that you really care about her but feel uncomfortable when she acts like that. By calling her, you're also giving her the oppurtunity to apologize...but don't expect her to...

If she still seems mad, if she doesn't apologize, don't get upset. Be as nice as you can and as level headed as possible and just inform her that you wanted to express how you felt. That is what you're aiming to do here...NOT to call her out and demand an apology, but to lay out how you feel...if she wants to remain upset, THEN I'd give her some space; at that point, she will come back to you if and when she's ready to care about you in the way that you, now, have demonstrated that you care about her...

I hope that this sorta helps...I feel like I wrote an instruction manual...I'm a dork. Don't feel like you need to do any or all of this. Anyways, good luck.

She called me. And I said oh long time no talk, I asked why she didnt call, and she said cuz she thought I was too busy. So I told her why I thought she didnt call. And her response was "I really dont care what your sister thinks"

That got me mad, but at the point it didnt even register.