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confuzed bunny
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ok, 4 about 2 years now, ive been getting with guys at parties or things like that, and the guys i get with r ppl that i kno and talk 2, but after the 'stuf' has hapend with them (not all the way) they dnt seem 2 be interested in relationship. n it was just like a fling 2 them, and i dont understand why it is like this. if this doesnt make sence tell me n ill try n re-phrase it.lol. thnx all x

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Usually, hook ups at parties don't last (in terms of making it a romantic relationship) . There are exceptions, however, this is just the general conclusion. The reason for this being that some people just simply don't want a romantic relationship (for whatever reason), and are perfectly fine with having casual sex to satisfy themselves. That's basically it.
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Confused bunny, when you registered at Scarleteen you agreed to post in standard English and not netspeak. This is especially important for Scarleteen readers whose first language is not English. Netspeak also messes with our search functions.

If you just agreed to the Guidelines without reading them I suggest that you read them now because you also agreed to be held accountable to them.

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Actually, I was really confused reading your post and had very little idea what you were talking about. What are all those numbers doing there? Can you rewrite your post, just for clueless people like me?
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confuzed bunny
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sorry michelle here you go...

ok, for about two years now, i have been getting with guys at parties or things like that, and the guys i get with are people that i know and talk to, but after the 'stuff' has happend with them (not all the way) they dont seem to be interested in a relationship. and it was just like a fling to them, and i dont understand why it is like this. if this doesnt make sence tell me and i will try and re-phrase it. thanks all x

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So, you have been doing certain things with guys at parties and they haven't talked to you since. Maybe it was a one night stand and they didn't want a relationship. Did you know these guys before the parties? Maybe take the time to know them, or chose a little wisely. Maybe, they weren't ready for a relationship.
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yes i did kow them before the party, and i still talk to them now, but the conversations we have are really short and its quite awkward.

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That's actually a pretty normal response. After having a fling w/ someone that you "kinda know" it's pretty normal to feel a bit anxious or ignore them. So what you're experiencing it's probably that anxiety. And if it's not anxiety, than it's probably a lack of wanton of a romantic relationship, as mentioned above.

It might be a good idea to cut down on the flings for now. It limits the people that you are able to get to know really well, and it doesn't seem like it's doing you much good right now emotionally. So until you are ready to maybe try a steady relationship with someone you know really well, I'd try getting to know more people well, and if you still would like a relationship, move from there. It can turn some people off if the fling is just for the heck of it, with no real feelings. And it might benefit you love life to just lay off the flings for a while

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quote:
it was just like a fling to them, and i dont understand why it is like this.

I guess the question is why you expect it to be any way.

Sex doesn't magically create a romantic relationship where there isn't one already, or automatically make the other person interested in a relationship.

So if you have casual sex, it's not really surprising if the other people assume that's just what it is - casual sex.

Which is fine if casual sex is what you want, but it sounds like it isn't.


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