"Hey, mom, dad, I know that dinner is mighty tasty but listen to me for a sec - eventhough you explicitly told me not to, I have been screwing like a rabbit for the last 5 months!"
*CHOKE COUGH CHOKE EERP!*
"Dude, I better like, call an ambulance or something..."
I kept a boyfriend secret for a monthn and when I told mom she told me "kiss and hug all you want, but wait till you're older to do something hotter".
I waited 2 weeks. I'm sick of it being a secret, all of those worries that I will be caught, staring at the clock and always looking out for when they come back home, not nice at all. My BF is a lot more open about it with his parents. Him: Don't call me when I'm late from school on this particular day.
I personally feel that when I do start having sex with my boyfriend, there's no need for me to let my parents know. Is it imperative they know? You don't have to tell them. But if you feel you really want, obviously you are not gunna blurt out that you've been humping like rabbits over dinner. Choose the right moment. Maybe when your mum and dad are sitting quietly, reading a book or something (try to catch them when they're in a good mood) and just tell them you thought they'd appreciate knowing that you've gone to the next level with your boyfriend. Also make it clear that you've been smart about it and used protection and that you guys were sure about it etc. Your parents will appreciate that you at least thought it through, even if this might not be the case . If they get upset about it, just apologise and tell them you never meant to hurt them but that you are being responsible and then remind them that at least your letting them know.
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NOT telling your parents may not seem like such a bad idea until something happens, and all the sudden you're both having nervous breakdowns because of a pregnancy scare or STD or STI possibility.
I'm not saying that something like this happens to every couple who doesn't tell their parents that they are having sex, but it does happen. And it can come as a major shock to parents, who had such trust in their teens, and thought they would tell them. Of course, come parents don't care, but if you're talking about the average mom and dad, I'd want to know if my child was having sexual intercourse.
It's better in the long run to tell them, because, sooner or later, they will find out. You can't hide it forever. So, better to have their trust and support if something does happen than to possibly lose it and have it come as a huge surprise if they don't.
I know it's hard to let your parents know. But if you don't, and they find out... they probably won't trust you again for a very long time. Even if they will be angry no matter what, they need to accept what you are/were doing because it is reality (reality is that doesn't go away when we stop believing in it). As my parents told me, "Speaking he truth can only help your case, hiding it does just the opposite."
I suggest printing some things off of this site that might help you *major hint* and try not to bring it up while they are eating something. Perhaps you will have success in showing them that you are a responsible young woman who really does know a few things too. Even if you dont, what is the worst possible thing that can happen?
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