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Hello people!

Imagine this scenario:

You are on a forum, and you meet someone. You start talking over messenger, see each other with webcam, and after a while you realize you like each other a lot.

Your friends tell you you are crazy, but are you really?

Is this really love what you feel?

What do you guys think about stuff like that?


dive into shine, even a deep darkness changes into shine, because i am believing the moment

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We have a whole article all about this:

Getting Real: Relationships on the Net

Meeting people online can certainly lead to love, but I'd be very wary about deciding that you're "in love" or committing yourself to a relationship before you've actually met someone in person.

Via the net, you only get to know a person in one particular context. So there are a whole lot of things that can come as a big surprise when you meet up.

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ahh...I'm still dealing with this from about two years ago...I believe love is possible, but keeping your head below the clouds is VERY IMPORTANT! In my experiences, there was always the mentioning and the desire to meet in person, but he's always been very flaky about it...can't say I blame him, considering the distance between us, but it gets heart-wrenching.

I feel that the best thing to do is acknowledge your feelings and share them with this person and nothing more; I loved this guy, and I suppose I still do (to a lesser degree and as a friend), but that will NOT stop me from pursuing someone I know in real life.
It can be tough, but you have to brace yourself for let-downs and emotional pain from lack of physical contact (I'm not talking about sex necessarily). This may sound awful but sometimes it's easier to keep yourself from loving him/her so that you're not so vulnerable. (Not to imply that vulnerability is always a bad thing)

I hope I haven't ranted too much.

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I wouldn't call it ranting.

I appreciate all kinds of opinions

I'll read the article. Please keep on giving your opinions

I find myself in a situation like that already. And in a way it is frustrating. Two friends of mine are like that as well, so I was wondering.


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my uncle met his wife online and they have been married since i think 2001. and they have a 4 month old baby together now. so i know it works some times. you just have to be really careful when meeting people in person, not everyone is who they say they are.

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