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Dark Blue
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Ok, first of all, I'm really sorry, my sister told me about this site, and i didn't realize I was signed in as her and not me when I posted, and she got all mad and tried to delete it, so that's why the one below this has the same title -SORRY!

Anyway, back to my concern:
Last night my boyfriend had some people over, but as the night went on he started getting depressed/angry like he sometimes does, so I tried to make things as easy for him as possible and was like trying to comfort him and stuff.

I heard today that 2 of the girls his best friend brought over, who I had never met before, thought i was really "protective" of my boyfriend. I was wondering what they meant but this, like if you were going to call a girl protective, what about her would bring you to that conclusion? I'm just curious as to what it was, becuase it wasn't like I wouldn't let him talk to girls, cuz i trust him and he was a bit, and i wasn't constantly around him, but i did dit near him a lot and try to cheer him up, but is that really that uncommon?!

I'm just wondering what you think about it... when my boyfriend told me this today he said he never really found me like that before ("nothing compared to my ex girlfriend, mutter mutter mutter" lol) and that whatever they're call protective is fine with him ("i like the way you're protective, if that's what it is") but i was just wondering what you thought I could've done that made me seem too protective of him, just a secondt opinion would help, lol!!

I mean, I love him and think he's the sweetest, cutest, nicest, hottest ( ) buy in the world, but does caring have to = too protective?!?!?

"She stumbled on a kiss and fell into love."

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I deleted your other post. No big deal, accidents happen...just try to make sure you're signed in with your own handle next time before you post.

I'll shift this over to Relationships since it probably fits better there.

Sarah Liz
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Rule Nineteen in BruinDan's Guide to Ordinary Living is "Never take too much stock in the rantings and ravings of others."

So these random folk are calling you "protective?" So what? Honestly, that sort of thing is subjective, and everyone who sees you around your boyfriend is going to have a different opinion of how you are acting around him. These people saw your behavior and saw it one way, no doubt others (like your boyfriend, apparently) feel otherwise. It's nothing to be worried about.

People have all sorts of reasons for saying things like these, and while we can't really speculate on their motives...I wouldn't beat myself up over it at all. So long as you are happy, your boyfriend is happy, and you're not limiting one another's contact with the outside world; I think you'll be just fine. Despite what these naysayers are claiming.

BruinDan, "Number Three," PHOM

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