I Met Evan when I started college in august, He is a great friend and I like him a lot. He knows that and says he feels the same way. Two weeks ago he broke up with is girlfriend from back home in Washington. I have been "hooking up" with him since the beginning of september(I knew about his girlfriend. but I liked him so much i pushed my way right in.) We are getting closer, and I really enjoy spending time with him. I really want to pursue a "relationship" with him. We basically have one already, just neither of us has come straight out and made it into something, does that matter? He tells me I am amazing, and everyday I like him more.so... here is my question...
Can a relationship just begin? or does someone have to Officialy ask one out?
Well, the status of a relationship can be confusing if it remains unspoken, and I would suggest that you have a talk with him about what you both feel regarding the situation.
My concern would be that you're with someone who wasn't faithful to his last partner. Doesn't that say something about trustworthiness right there? You've been hooking up with him while he was-- I'm assuming exclusively dating this girl, and you say you pushed in. What's to stop it from happening again? I'd be careful. (I also don't think it was very nice to know that he had a girlfriend and disregard her feelings in this when you hooked up. another note-- I'm also assuming from context that your "hooking up" was something that would constitute a breach of trust with his then-current girlfriend. If I'm mistaken, my apologies.)
Ignoring that factor, though it's something you should think about, relationships begin in different ways. Some people need an official statement, while others just sort of fall into them. If you want it clearly defined, the only way you're going to get that is by sitting down and talking with him.
I think that if you really like him and you feel you might already be going out in a sort of way you should try to talk to him and ask him where your relationship is and maybe everything will be ok. HOpefully he'll just go right out and say let's go out, he will if he likes you as much as you say. HOpefully everything will work out and if you need anymore help send me an email at edited because we ask that you not post your email @hotmail.com hope I helped well thanks bye.
[This message has been edited by KittenGoddess (edited 10-22-2003).]
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