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I just been diagnosed with herpes, and I don't know how to deal with it or tell my close friend, who I think should know? I feel dirty about myself, and I have multiple feelings that I will be alone for the rest of my life! Is there still a chance of relationships and love for me?
P.S. Help... I advice and assurance!

Taking it day by day

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Please don't feel dirty! There is absolutely nothing for you to be ashamed of! For more advice on the disease, you might want to read this:

Of course you can still have a loving, sexual relationship with someone don't let anyone persuade you otherwise. Well done on getting yourself tested, by the way, it is a very smart thing to do. As for telling your friend about herpes, why don't you let him/her read the link that I gave you? That might help them to understand and be supportive of you. Good luck

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Have you talked to your doctor about treatment options? There are some medications out there that help prevent outbreaks, and other ways to prevent spreading herpes to your partner.

There is just as much of a chance for you to be in a loving relationship as the rest of us. Becuase you have herpes doesn't make you any more or less likely to fall in love. You may need to be more careful when engaging in sexual activity, but in no way does that prevent a relationship.

My health teacher told us a story about a man and a woman getting married. They decided to get tested before getting married. It turns out she had multiple partners and picked up HIV. They got married anyway. They have to be very careful (they use a female condom and a male condom) but have managed to have a normal sex life. The husband gets tested regularly for HIV.

Don't let an STD get in the way of your emotions.


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Just a note. It is never a good idea to use more than one condom at a time. The two will rub against each other, creating friction and thus making both of them more likely to break. One condom, used properly, is all you need. A Simple Condom Primer
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