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I'm almost 16 now and i have been go to this camp ( not the childish type thing you may be thinking)for 3 years. To any returning camper for if only one year there is a love for this camp. Its like a family. You meet your best friends from all around the country. Anyway, there is this girl I met there my first year. It could, for all i know be pure lust because I have wanted her since the first day I met her. I only see her for that one month every year, and occasionally for a couple minutes if i run into since we live in the suburbs next to her.
Most times when you have a crush on someone you think in your mind how bad you want to get on them and go down on them or something sexual, but with her its different some how. I think about her and sometimes i just feel like i would want to kiss her and for her to be my girlfriend and just to hold. Other times i think about her i want to do the whole sexual thing, like pleasuring her.
While i was at camp i was sitting in my bed listening to Michael Jacksons new CD (sorry if you dont like him haha. ) and i was listening to track 8 called Speechless. When i heard that song it was like he took the words out of my mouth in some way. I felt something while i was listening to it. I played the song for my friend(without sayin anthing to him about how it reminded me of the girl) and he told him i should play it for the girl(cuz he knew i liked her). I dunno......what would you conclude from this? If it was clear at all...Thanks

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What do I conclude from this? that you are a fairly normal 16 year old. Very often people your age fixate on unavailable idea partners. I did this till I was 20. after awhile the unrequited thing grows old and you begin to become interested in people that are available and interested in you. I don't know all of what's behind this. In part I think it has to do with not being ready for an interactive relationship, so we do this kind of thing as practice. so practice, when you're ready you'll move on to someone more accessable.

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You may be right about me "fixate on unavailable idea partners" as well as me not being ready, but i was just with a girl for almost 3 months and after the first kiss interaction isn't scary. I mean i am nervous about first moves...but if i think about how i want to get with a girl, i just have to make a move or i'll never be ready... BUT with this girls i think theres something different. I know i kind of said this in the first one but although sometimes i want to be sexual with her most of the time i think how i would just want to be with her because i enjoy her company and i just want to hold her. There is just something about her. It may be that eather she is a tease or just has the idea that men make her feel safe. (something happened at camp that was very scary to all the girls, and it would take to long to explain) but we were sleeping in tents that night and she asked the counselors if i could sleep with her and her friends because they would feel safe...
I just dont know.

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I'm not sure why Mingo stated this person is unavailable to you? Maybe Mingo can help with that, because I didn't see you say she was unavailable.

I also can't figure how one got lasping into psychoanalyzing this girl -- eather she is a tease or just has the idea that men make her feel safe? What is that about?

In any event -- like I said, the last two posts got a little convaluted, so it's all become murky, when it seems initially like you were describing pretty normal romantic feelinsgf ro someone, feeling which you can shoose to pursue or not.

Heather Corinna
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