Do you think there's a difference between loving someone and being IN love with them? I could think of some examples, like: i love my mom and my cat...but i'm not IN love with them.
What i'd really like to know, is if there's a transition between loving your romantic partner and being in love with him/her.
Any ideas/opinions? I'm very curious...
p.s. i couldnt imagine why there wouldnt be a topic like this already, but when i did a search i didnt come up with anything! I hope i wasnt mistaken!
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A few months ago, when my Mom was deciding whether she'd stay with or divorce my Dad, one of the things she told me was "I can't decide if I love your Dad ... or if I'm in love with your Dad."
I love my best friend. But I'm not in love with her like I'm in love this boy. When you love someone, you care about them a great deal, and you feel warm inside when you're around them. When you're in love with someone, you feel both wanting them sexually, romantically, whatever, and the caring for them and fuzziness.
I'd like to hear other members' opinions, too.
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As I understand it, love's about caring for someone, wanting them to be okay, wanting to do what you can to make that so. Being in love's about srong emotions, and attraction, and sexual desire. They can exist independently, and while the former'a just fine without the latter, being in love with someone is only likely to be a long-term thing if you love them too. So . . . I love my friends, and family, and I love the Beatles, and stereophonic sound (but this is another kind of love entirely, where it's just a matter of being very fond of something that you really have no control of at all), and I'm not in love with anyone.
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that question has come to my mind many times. I had to realise the answer the hard way. I realised that I was in love with someone and that i just loved someone else. I had to stop a realtionship due to it. :'( It's kinda hard to think about.
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there is a difference between being in love, and loving someone. i love my parents..and i love my friends...but im IN love with jason. there is a difference. completely and utterly, which i think its kind of dumb for people to keep on using it as a way to break up with people. OY!
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