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hi, i was wondering how relationships start,
at what point did you feel like it was a relationship beyond friendship

i have never felt that way and i wanna know how other people have felt

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For me, it's been very different depending on the relationship.

With one, it was very much "love at first sight" -- we fell in love first, and became friends later.

With another, it was a definite friends with benefits thing that developed into a deeper friendship -- and then at one point my feelings had deepened to a point that I realized "oh, I'm in love with this person."

I think it's kind of like an avalanche for me -- there are lots of little pebbles skittering down the hill, but I don't notice that I'm in love until it's all suddenly bearing down upon me.


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::giggles that Erin said 'friend with benefits::

With my relationships (remember, I'm only 15) it's usually just us flirting and stuff (which I do with everyone) and then we'll start acting like a couple and people will be like "hey, you two would be sooo cute together!" and we're like hey...we like each other, yeah, let's make this official. And of course we do it in our shy little teenage way (well, the other person does anyway, I'm really agressive and nosy and if I like someone I'll just tell them "you know I like you, and I just want to know what you feel about me".)

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Usually, relationships come easily with me. I see a guy I like, I get the scoop on him. If he's likable, I somehow get him to know I exist. I used to mainly get them to notice me at school dances. Anyway, I exchange numbers, ask them if they want to hang out, and it just pretty much goes on from there. If we get along, we're together, if not, no biggie, better luck next time. Using this tactic, my longest relationship was four months.
However, with my latest, I started a new technique - I became friends first. No seduction with him, we became best friends, and then the relationship ran a lot smoother. We've been together almost two years.

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Well my boyfriend now? We knew eachother for only a week and he asked me out. I decided to give it a try, see what happend. It worked out great, we are happily in love!

Not much to the story. A year and 7 months & counting! Worked out great.


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Everyone's definition is different.

Attraction can start a million different ways. Sometimes it starts with the physical and you can lust after a person. Oftentimes it starts with friendship before a person realizes there is a really special quality that's drawing them in beyond just a platonic connection. Othertimes it can be entirely personality (this is how some internet relationships start off).

Basically it can be any number of things and when it hits you, you'll know it.

Smile, though your heart is breaking....

My crazy little universe....

"Whatever tomorrow brings I'll be there....
With open arms and open eyes...."


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Jeez, I wish I knew. I really do...sadly, I've never been in a real relationship. It always seems that I get crushes on people, and they don't have crushes on me, and then I end up dejected somewhere. Alas...

BTW Pixie, I *love* the quote on yer sig. It cracked me up, seriously.

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