hi , I've been going out with my boy friend 3weeks now and most of the time i get jealouse over little things. I would go home and cry alot. Sometimes, he met his ex girl friend and he would chat with her for like 20 mins. When i get jealouse i'd be very moody and kinda make him angry as well. I dont know why but i feel like i'm the one trying so hard in this relationship . I'm the one always telling him how i feel, what i want from this relationship. He always act stupid and joke around all the time. Its hurting me. Should i take a break or just tell him and work it out?
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Sit him down very firmly and have a talk with him. Make sure he understands how serious this is and how much this is affecting you.
You know hon, jealousy often stems from insecurity. Instead of making yourself miserable over the fact that he still talks to his ex, why not tell yourself that hey, he is with you. Not with his ex. Not with some other girl. Being overly jealous can be very destructive to a relationship. However, if you are really uncomfortable with him meeting up with his ex, tell him about it and hear what he has to say.
If he still decides to joke around and not take what you have to say seriously, maybe he isn't worth all this effort. And maybe a break might do you some good.
Have a good talk with him hon and see how it goes.
Well first off, getting jealous over little things might make your boyfriend more distant. You have to trust your boyfriend, when hes with his friends, and ex-girlfriends. I know its hard, but this is part of a relationship. TRUST!
Tell your boyfriend you are serious when you talk to him. Tell him that you are hurting, and that you dont know what to do with this relationship.
What ever you are feeling you have to talk to him more.
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