I've sent a letter off to my boyfriend (who is in Australia right now) about next year. I suppose he's going to be receiving it tomorrow night.

Before he left we promised one another that next year we'd go to school together. Now, we've talked on the phone a couple of times and this promise has sort of wavered back and forth with both of us.

In this letter I'm asking him whether he wants to stick to this promise or not. I'm not asking him where we should go to school, but whether or not we should go together. And I've told him that I want a final, honest answer because my father is coming over next week and he and my mother and I (YIKES!) are going to be sitting down and talking out my post-secondary future.

All I'm asking for is an answer. A real one either way. Just for next year. I know it's shitty timing, but I need to know before my parents get together. This letter has ended up being really long (10K) and I just don't want to scare him off while he's away. I mean, this is serious.

The letter is ready to send, but I'd like to hear what other people have to say before I send it. Do you think I'm making a mistake and I'm going to make him break up with me?

I think what you are asking is totally reasonable. Just explain to him why you need an answer so hurriedly and this has nothing to do with the relationship.

But maybe shorten the letter a little? I would be scared off by such a long letter sweetie.

Just to reassure you; I doubt he'll break up with you for asking whether or not he still wants you two to go to the same school. I think it's a very honest questions. Let us know how it turns out.

as for the letter, 10k is a bit lengthy. it could get tiresome to read. and i'd find a letter that long a little intimidating.