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marionnette13
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is it possible to have a real crush on someone you've never met, (well, talked online to, but never met for real) or is it just some strange part of my imagination playing around????

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KittenGoddess
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Of course it's possible to have a crush on someone you met online, if you mean a crush as in having romantic feelings for that person. The key is that you have to remember that it's quite possible that the picture you've painted of that person in your head may not be exactly who they are in real life. So if you decide to actually meet up with the person, please be extra careful, and don't give out alot of personal information. Just use good judgement and keep yourself safe.

You'll find that around here people are fairly open to the idea of love facilitated by the internet. Several of us met our significant others/partners/boyfriends/girlfriends/whoever else online. Ask around, everybody's glad to help in any way we can!

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Mack
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people on the internet are not the same in real life. Why should they be? There is no way to tell who they really are.
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unhappykoger
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my uncle is marrying a girl in june that he met online.
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Lin
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I met my boyfriend through the Internet, in a chat room. We just celebrated our third year anniversary.

Of course it is possible to fall for someone you met online. The person might be behind a computer screen but he/she still has a personality, a character right? So, it's absolutely natural.

But as Kitten said, always be wary. While you might think that the person is telling the absolute truth, you never really know.

And when it comes to meeting this person, you might want to do so in either a public place or with a friend. You can never be too safe.


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Daniel
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It's hard to say about internet relationships, because the internet lets a whole bunch more people be assholes to people attrac

While I met my girlfriend over the internet and we hve a great relationship, I've seen SO MANY people hurt by them... a housemate of mine is flying to Canada this Easter to see a girl he only started talking to a few months ago. If that amounts to anything, I will be so schocked.

In short, internet relationships aren't necessarily to be avoided, but certainly I wouldn't recommend that you go looking for them,and you'll probably just get hurt if you have a crush...

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glitter695
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Yes its possible. Have you ever had an imaginary friend? Its what you want and what you want your best friend to act and look like.

You can like them, you are creating their image from what they tell you they look like and thats ok. Just be careful, creating an image is ok, but sometimes the image doesnt turn out the way you want to be.

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Cypher
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It's VERY possible to have a crush on someone you've never met. For example, I have a friend who was over at my house when a guypal of mine phoned up. While I had to run and finish something else, I left her to talk to him on the phone. When I'd returned, they'd both hung up and she was telling me how interesting he sounded and how she was very attracted to him. And she had spent only a little while on the phone with him. Not to mention the fact that she had no idea what he looked like.

Not too long after their conversation they met in person and the sparks just didn't fly. They became good friends, though, and thus gained something else unexpected.

An online crush is like any other crush in the way that it may or may not work out. There is one element you must be aware of in online crushes, or any other crushes where you don't meet the person face-to-face: nothing is entirely upfront. It is much easier to bend the truth when you aren't face-to-face than it is in person. Just be careful and keep yourself protected, but don't close yourself off to any potential connections. Get to know your crush a little better as time goes by and perhaps one day you will be able to meet in person and see how that connection fares!

All the best!


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