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hey....i havent had a boyfriend in like 3 years and that wasnt even a real boyfriend!! just about all of my other friends have one and it makes me depressed :-( what would be some good flirting tips and ways to get guys to notice you?!?i usually go for the older guys....because guys my age arent mature! lol ive also never been kissed...so that sucks too!!!!!
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Being single is nothing to fret about. Okay, so you don't have a boyfriend... you're still alive, aren't you? Then it can't be that bad. Does it really matter that all your friends have boyfriends? Do they take them out and compare the hottest colors or to see which one is at the trendiest length? Or maybe someone's boyfriend is totally out of fashion. That would be a major faux pas, now wouldn't it?
All kidding aside, why is it that you want a boyfriend? No, not because it's hip and all your friends have one. And it shouldn't be that you need one. You should never need a boyfriend. That's not the greatest reason for a relationship. Don't go shopping for a new baeu. Don't force anything. Some guy will come along when the time is right. Yes, it is trite but it is also true. Don't worry, you won't end up as an aging spinster at the age of 25.
Older guys are more mature? I'm not even going to get into that. As for kissing, again, don't worry about it. Your lips aren't going to rot off because some guy hasn't slobbered all over them. Sweetie, relax.
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whoo, i went thru all of high school sans a real boyfriend. it's no biggie, really.
but if you feel the need to flirt, i find that a good sense of humor is a good thing to have handy. and never talk about your clothes, weight, shopping or the last time you had a boyfriend.
in terms of what i think i did to win over my current boyfriend, i think it was my extensive knowledge of trivia (keep in mind I'm in college). he'd try to impress me with some tidbit of trivia, but i'd just finish his sentence or correct him. he likes me 'cause i'm smart
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Oh I know you don't want to hear this but there's nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend. When i was in 6th/7th grade I probably had at least 15 boyfriends and I thought I was so cool and life was great. Now I'm in 9nth grade, I haven't had a boyfriend since about a year ago and I like it a lot better.
Don't be consciosly looking for a guy because then all you'll look for is boyfriends and not friends. Just be yourself, smile, act intrested (and be interested) in what they have to say.
Brittany
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You're NOT alone in how you feel, first of all. Almost all my friends now have boyfriends/girlfriends and I'm very much single. It sucks sometimes, but for the most part being single is okay. You have no relationship problems and can really focus on you. All of my best relationships have happened when I was happy with myself and my life.
In the meantime, I think the best way to attract someone is to be yourself and as hard as it is....don't get too impatient. I can guarantee you won't be single forever!
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The best advice I can give on this particular topic is just not to care what anyone thinks of you. Seriously. Others often take notice when you're proud of who you are and you carry yourself with an air of confidence. It's a very attractive quality.
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u shouldnt even woRRy! being single sometimes has it's perks. there's nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend. u wont DIE without one! pixie's right...u should lOOk for friends tOO. friends *usuaLLy* stick around longer than boyfriends. you can always always use a friend
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Some flirting tips ?! ok 1. If you find someone attractive, maintain eye contact and then smile.
2. if you're interested in someone, have a talk.
3. be yourself, you don't want to be a carmen electra or some beauty queen who has it all in miss congenality.
4. dress yourself. you know style is important. tight clothing can be attractive but think about how much too tight can be. casual is a good style or maybe tight jeans will do.
5. and most importantly, have confidence.
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and that wasnt even a real boyfriend!! just about all of my other friends have one and it makes me depressed 
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