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fLoWuRz
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ok, turns out my grandparents are going to be in town on business the same time my boyfriends grandparents are visiting him. so, my mom suggested we have a big family dinner (me,my brother,parents and grandparents, and my bf and his mom and granparents) at our place to get to know everyone. well, both our grandparents are very religious...so they've already got something in comun. however, theres a small problem...he's catholic and i'm protestant. and my grandfather is still all caught up on that whole catholics vs. protestant crap. i dont want something like this to ruin a good dinner. any advice?
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lilnerd
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just lay low. talk about some common things that can't get you into a troublesome area. i'm sure that your family doesn't want to meet these people and have a fight with them, they are probably a lot more worried about your happiness then you think. O, but don't forget to mention to your grandparents that you'll be having some *extra special* guests. Smiles

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KittenGoddess
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Well, I think that if it were me, I'd make sure that I'd talked to my grandparents about it before-hand. That or maybe have your parents bring it up with them. Just explain very politely that they have a different beliefs system than your grandparents do, but that you really like your boyfriend and would appreciate it if an effort was made to make this a peaceful meal. For me, at least, it would be better to get the subject out in the air ahead of time so it could be dealt with rather than wait until it springs up around the table.

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Lin
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Okay, I say talk to your parents and ask them what you should do. While lilnerd and Kitten Goddess's ideas are good ones, the result could go either way.

If you don't tell and it comes up during dinner, things could get really awkward. If you tell but your grandfather doesn't accept what you are saying, it could be an uncomfortable affair as well.

Your parents should know your grandparents better so ask them if you should tell or not. And at least whatever the decision is, you know you've got your parents on your side. Gd luck hun and I hope all goes well.


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Heather
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You may also want to just trust both of your grandparents manners and etiquette. It really isn't good form to discuss religion at the dinner table with new guests.

Older people tend to be a little more particular about traditional etiquette and table manners, and that is a fairly widespread tenet.


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