I remember the first time I said those 3 words. My boyfriend was bringing me home during the summer (2000) and we were standing in front of my house. It was a beautiful clear night with all the stars out. It was perfect timing too. I looked at him and said it. He looked a little surprised (Guess he never thought I had such strong feelings) and then he said, "I love you too. I'm glad the feeling is one-sided." Then we kissed and then I remember him saying.. "I never expected that." Ever since we always tell each other.

Thanks for your time everyone! And can't wait to hear ur replies!

the first time i told someone that i loved him was the first time i had sex. it was the first time truly felt like i was in love. i still am in love.

i remember how he held me and kissed the nape of my neck. i asked him if he loved me, and he said, "i love you. i love everything about you..." i replied, "i love you, too." and that was that.

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It's been said a lot to me over the years, but it hasn't meant anything to me.. translated into "I like you, and I'd like to sleep with you"..

The only person I have really felt in love with is the guy I recently broke up with.. he told me one night a few months after we met, and I know that he must have meant it, because of the type of person he is. He wouldn't say something like that without meaning it..

I think I'd just turned 17.. and this was 18 months or so ago..

I won't tell you the whole story, it's too embarrassing All I can say, is it involved Chartruse (very high strength alcohol) and not much sleep...

I tell my friends I love them, because I do. And to them I can't say it often enough

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First was when I was 15. Yes, 15. I'd known the guy since I was 12, and we'd been seeing eachother for six months. We were on the phone and I put it down to go find something. When I picked it back up, he was talking to one of his friends, and I overheard him say "I love her so much, and I have no idea how to tell her." And I said "You just did." Isn't that cute? And I do still love him, deeply. What is it about the first that makes it so hard to let go? But over time that romantic love has turned more platonic, and really, it's so much more meaningful. Because when we say that we love eachother, it's like we're brother and sister or something. He knows me better than anyone.

Second, my current boyfriend. We started dating after my Week From Hell, when I found out I was pregnant and got abandoned by the father of my baby all within a matter of a few days. So Jeremy, the new wonder-boy, and I started dating around Christmas. Valentines day comes and goes, I wanted to say it to him, but it didn't feel like the right way. March comes and goes, as does April, and a little bit of may. Mothers Day of this year. We were laying down on my bed and he had his hand on my tummy, trying so so hard to feel the baby move inside. We just started talking about all the things that had happened in the last few months and all of the sudden he said "You know I love you, right?" And at that very moment, the baby kicked him really hard three times. And he bent down, kissed my tummy where the baby's foot was, and said "Don't worry, Baby, I love you too."
I cried.

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well so far there has only been one guy to whom i said i love you.it was on the
internet and we had been talking for only about 3 days.i know u areprobably thinking that i am one fo those who just says it without meaning it...but happy to say...this was 2 and a half years ago

what was amazing to me was that wen we first spoke i didnt think there was even the remotest possibiity of there being anyhitng but a platonic relationship between us.lots of guys tell em they love me...but this was the first time i ever FELT that he did.
and when i told him that i loved him...and this was the first time that i had ever felt that way or even said that to anyone he tol me that his heart skipped a beat and he got butterflies.i just found that unbelieveably sweet

aria51 that was really toooo touching for words...i dont even know u or ur bf but i got teary eyed...good luck to u hun!!!

The only thing that keeps us apart is, I`m in the US, he`s India. *sobs*

My boyfriend also told me he loved me over the Internet. He sent me an email. It was so sweet!

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"No day is so bad it can't be fixed with a nap."
--Carrie Snow

"A mistake is simply another way of doing things."
--Katharine Graham

I love telling the story of how those three words popped into my life. I was sitting with my boyfriend and he was playing with my hair. He always jokes around and grabs it with his mouth and pretends to chew on it. I know that may sound weird, but it's actually quite cute. Anyhow, he was doing this and he just came out and stated "I like your hair." I thought it was funny so I retaliated and said "Well, I like you." It was totally lighthearted. Then he just turned dead serious and said "I love you." He was smiling at me and it came as the biggest surprise, but after a second I looked him in the eye and told him I loved him too. It was wonderful.

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Originally posted by CharmeD:
Right now, i love someone. But i haven't told him that yet. I was just wondering if i should wait till he tells me or if i should say it to him?! Also when should i say it, i mean i can't just say it in the middle of the conversation! Please help!

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Hon.. I can totally relate to your questions. Before I said it first to my boyfriend I was terrified because I wasn't sure what or how he would react. I stressed over it for about 2 weeks and he got tired of me not telling him what was bothering me. The night I decided to tell him, I just thought it would be best for both of us.

Anyways.. I knew that I had to tell him because I honestly do love him and it was best for me to get it off my chest.

I think there is NO real perfect time, but myabe when you are in to a deep conversation or out of the blue can be sweet too. Good luck and remember.. Go with the gut feeling

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~KittenGoddess

i think that "i love you" are WONDERFUL words when sincere, but what means more to me is when you show someone you love them more than you say it.

anyways, my story...

well my current and i hadn't been long when we got in our first BIG fight (i don't remember over what). i broke up with him. i was the type that didn't put up with BS from a guy. he came over (i used to live a few blocks away from him) to talk things out. we talked...actually he BEGGED (shhh! don't tell him i said that ) and i considered being with him again. i decided my feels for him were to strong to just throw away over one fight. i took him back . we sat on my porch holding each other when i got the feeling to tell him that i loved him. my stomach flip-flopped like there was no tomorrow, but i finally spit it out. he paused and looked at me (the LONGEST 30 secs of my life), kissed my forehead and said "i love you too." now everytime we make love, he kisses my forehead ! awwww!

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**Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted**

Wonder what it feel like to hear them words and know that they mean it too.

I wouldn't tell someone I love them if I wasn't sure about it but I can't wait for that day when I do use them (if that day ever comes) or when someone says them to me.

At this point in my life those word only exsit in my dreams, That why I sleep nearly all day at weekends

Because I was born with a lot of medical problems and conditions, first doctor said I would never walk, talk or anything but 18 years later I'm here walking, talking and doing all the things the doctors said I would do and I have my family to thank for that. They've spent the last 18 years keeping me alive.

In short I wouldn't be here if they didn't love me.

But my problem is I can't ask girls out because of things that have happened in the past, I was bullied at school, teased by the girls, I'm not a well built person either.

My looks don't bother me alot because this is the way I've always been and I can't imagine myself looking more well built. But what does bother is what people think about me or say about me and in a way it's a bit upsetting because no one knows what i'm really like all they see is what's on the outside.

I've only ever met one person who was really nice to me and I could really talk to her and let my feelings out to her.

I've 7 years of my life as a spectator I've liked girls and wanted so much to ask them out and never have, instead I've ended up seeing meet someone, falling in love with them.

But anyway, I'm going to give you some advice that no one else would probably give at this point. DON'T ask her out. The next time you see her, go up to her, and talk to her, and tell yourself the whole time that you're NOT going to ask her out, you're just getting to know her. Maybe you'll find it easier to get to know her if the pressure of asking her out isn't hanging over your head. So tell yourself that while you would like to ask her out, you're not going to. You're not even trying to work up the courage to do so in a couple of weeks. You're just talking to her, with no intention other than getting to know her.

Meanwhile, back at the on-topic ranch...the first time a guy said "I love you" was absolutely storybook perfect.

We were best friends and had been very close for a year and a half. Both of us had wanted to go out with each other but were too scared to risk the friendship for many months, then one morning he suddenly kissed me goodbye after the free hour we have together. (and that's a store in itself!) The next day we acted pretty normal, and when free hour rolled around and he asked what do you want to do today, I suggested we could go to his house and watch a movie since we both had several hours free that day(my schedule is more complex than calculus, don't even ask) and he lived less than a mile from school. So we cuddled on the couch, played on the computer, and after a couple hours I had to get going. So I reach up for the hug I had become used to receiving upon my departure, but after yesterday we both actually had the guts to go in for a kiss! Did I mention this is also the first time I've been kissed?

We kissed for a while at the bottom of the steps that led from the basement to the front door, and it was a gorgeous end of winter day full of promise of the spring to come, the sun was shining, the air was warm, the birds were singing and flowers were starting to come up...honest! He had me stand a step higher than him because he's nine inches taller than me, and after a few minutes which were an eternity, a universe in thierself, I really had to go, and he bear hugged me and spun me around once with a huge silly grin on his face before I headed up the stairs. As I got to the top of the stairs and reached for the door handle, he says with an ever-so-slightly unsteady voice with a slightly questioning tone(which is absolutely incredible because he is a very confident, independant person, but no conceited at all. I was allowed unrestricted access to his soul...he let himself be vulnerable, I could have torn him to pieces if I was so inclined, but he knew me.) "I love you". I turn around and stand awestruck for a few seconds just staring at the face of the person I love before enough brain cells kick back into gear and I say "I love you too" then we grin like idiots, say a couple more goodbyes, and I finally get in my car and go. I was so happy and amazed beyond belief I'm surprised I could drive straight! Both of us were so excited an amazed about this whole turn of events that we couldn't sleep or eat much for a couple weeks. And the cool part is we were so close before we started going out that we could talk about the relationship and stuff we were going through without being nervous.

so here's my story...i agree that you can't toss around "i love you" just like nothing. it's totally heavy. my first boyfriend told me that he loved me...over the phone...he punched it out on the touch tone phone! haha! it was 9th grade. all i could say was "you're so sweet"! i panicked! i didn't know what else to say! i wasn't going o say it back! cuz i didn't love him....i liked him a whole bunch but i didn't LOVE him! that was about a month or so into it and we didn't last long enough to actually mean it.

ooh..."deep inside of you" by 3EB is playing, the guy i like a whole bunch (hehe) is a huge 3EB fan and whenever i hear this song i think of him and that day in physics when it was on the radio and he was singing to it while doing his homework! i love to hear him sing so much! (sorry, i like a lot to...hehe...) oh...it's great...he's great!

so anyways...i'm hoping that maybe he'll be the "i love you" cuz i really, really like him a lot and....yeah...
i think about him ALL THE TIME! i love to just look at him and be near him!..... okie...i'll stop now!! hahaha!

I have only said them to one (non-related) guy before. It was my first love; my first everything... we were together for almost 3 years. I think it was about 4 months into our relationship when he finally said it- I knew that I was in love with him almost immediately, but since my mama has always said that it takes guys longer to feel things, I waited until he said it first.

Now I'm all nostalgic...

I know i've said I Love You to previous boyfriends before. Although i have never really fallen really HARD in love until Isaiah came along.

I knew i was in love with Isaiah before we even became a couple (i believe we were on our 2nd or 3rd unoffical date). It was 5 days after Isaiah and I went offically public with our relationship that we said the three magical words of "I Love You" to eachother. It had happened during at Isaiah's prom night on June 1st, 2001. We had taken a break from dancing and decided to take a stroll away from the ballroom. We stopped at a particular spot. He looked me in the eyes and said "I Love You". I said it back right away. It didn't matter that it was said so soon into the relationship but it was right for us. We say the words of love all the time since then! We are now fast approaching our 2 and half years on November 27th of this year (2003) and nearly 7 months away from celebrating 3 years in May!! So that's my story!

My first boyfriend told me he loved me on ICQ, then logged off immediately afterward. =\ We later talked about it and he said that maybe he had said it too soon (he probably got the vibe that I wasn't really ready for that).

My (now ex) girlfriend, on the other hand…
Before we started dating, one night we went to a skating rink with a bunch of other friends. They were skating around and all, but we were just walking around and talking. It was December, so there was pretty snow on the ground and all the trees surrounding the area had little golden lights all over them (quite picturesque for a story like this). We were chatting for a while, and suddenly she told me that she had to tell me something. After lots of beating around the bush she told me she really loved me and she wasn't sure if it was as a friend, or as something more (awww).

I was completely taken by surprise, but took it really cool somehow (I still have no idea how I managed to maintain that level of composure, it's crazy). I said it back (as more than a friend) a few months later when I finally initiated a kiss (it was always she who initiated or it was completely mutual). So…yeah. =) I enjoyed reading these.

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Oh yeah, we were sixteen when she initially confessed her love. We started going out shortly before I turned seventeen, which is basically when I "officially" said it back.

I used to have a lot of cynicism about it--because I was attached to the idea that it was a black and white kind of thing ("She loves me; she loves me not"). Also, I was very attached to the idea of a "soulmate" as being the only person that I could love...so when my first "soulmate" broke up with me, I thought I was spoiled, I'd messed up terribly!

One thing that I have liked in relationships over the years was that there are many, many ways to say "I love you." And in different relationships we've had those special words--for example, I dated a woman from the Philippines in H.S. (and ended up marrying, having 4 kids, and divorcing, but that's another story) and we never said "I love you"--we said "Mahal ki ta", which is how you say it in Tagalog. "Je t'aime" is what one lover fluent in French told me; "Ti amo" from another. My wife now simply tells me with something we call the "choir look" (another long story, but when she looks at me that way, it makes my stomach do butterflies like you've all described).

I believe now that love is a many-hued thing, with infinite shades and variations. Accepting this has made my life and my relationships amazingly rich and varied--kind of like realizing there is more in the candy store than dark chocolate or nothing, that there are truffles, and...never mind, I tried to carry that simile and it crashed and burned into terrible innuendoes.

Most of all, though, it's nice to realize that I am responsible for my own feelings--so if I say I love you to someone, that's how I feel--and whether they say it back or not, it don't matter, because it doesn't have to be reciprocal. I love them whether they like it or not! Ha!

Id like to thank the person who started this topic cause its nice to give us all an outlet for those happy buzzy feelings circulating. ^_^ thanks

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Don't ever fall for that love [stuff]...

[language, my friend, language]

{a little like having an orgasm}

SO, Here's how we said it hehe

It was out last night at school last may, we knew we werent going to be seeing each other for awhile a couple months. I remember the whole night, we were both just so silent. We went out to dinner, rented a movie and went back to his appartment. We watched the movie, then he was on his laptop talking online all night, while i watched tv. lol...it was awful.. Well it reached like midnight or so, and we both had finals the next morning so i had to go back to my dorm. Well, we stood out on his front porch for about an hour, just crying in each others arms....when all the sudden just when we both started to calm down, he blurted out "I love you SO much!" and without even thinking the words just came out of my mouth "Oh my god...I love you too!" and we started crying again...

I remember driving back to campus when the words from a Black Crowes song came on the radio "I never thougt love could be like this..." And i cried again....

It was adorable really. And i totally meant it, and so did he...and it was really i think the perfect way for us to leave school, knowing that he would go home in philly and I in NJ, approx 2 hours from each other. Yet knowing also when we went back to school we would be at different campuses in the fall, also approx. 2 hours from each other.

The words I love you, still when he says those words, that feeling...it gives me butterflies inside. We've been together 11months and going strong! And i dont want it to ever end!