Hi there--first of all, thanks for having this as a resource. There are so many different sexual scenarios that young people face, and it's hard to decide some questions based on impersonal articles alone. So, thank you.
My question is--why is there so much conflicting information about the effectiveness of withdrawal? My boyfriend and I are meticulous about using condoms each and every time. But, yesterday was our one year anniversary and things became very intimate. He put his penis inside of me for a few minutes, and then took it out and put a condom on for the remainder of intercourse. Afterwards, we discussed what happened and I reassured him that since he withdrew effectively, and I was due for my period later that evening (I'm regular, just about 29-30 days between periods every month), we were almost totally safe.
However, just to double check myself, I went online this morning and was researching withdrawal and kept reading "yes there is sperm in pre cum" and then "no there isn't sperm in precum" and then "only if he's peed."
Can you clear this up? Was I right in telling him that we are pretty safe and that, according to the double-up chart on your website we are at about a 99.92% chance since it is pretty much withdrawal+fertility awareness?
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One big reason finding good info is hard is that we don't have the kinds of data to draw on with withdrawal that we do with things like pills or IUDs because those studies haven't been done.
That's the big why we have estimated rates for that method for perfect use, and studies only for typical, because we really only have data for typical use.
FAM is something that involves charting cervical fluids and/or basal temps, so if that's not what you do, I'd not factor that's something you used into this.
However, the estimated perfect use rate for withdrawal is currently 96% (on one year, same as for all methods effectiveness rates), and that accounts for pre-ejaculate fluid. It sounds like it was used perfectly -- your partner didn't ejaculate inside your body and withdrew well before he was near doing so -- so you can safely figure you had that estimated effectiveness rate for perfect use.
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