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Phoenix2784
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So my boyfriend decided that the time was right to try to have sex. He ended up fingering me and I gave him a hand job. He tried to have sex but I pushed him off. I'm on the combination pill and I usually take it at 10-10:30pm. I accidently didn't look at the clock and ended up taking it around 1 or 2 am. I've been on the pill for over 3 years. I'm super worried that when he attempted penetration he could have gotten semen near my vagina. What would be the chance that I could be pregnant?? Any help would be appreciated at this point.
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Robin Lee
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I'm a little unclear about when it was that you took your pill late? A couple of hours late is okay, and you took it as soon as you could so that's fantastic. Unless you've missed it completely other times, you're likely covered. The Pill has a 99% effectiveness rate for preventing pregnancy with perfect use, and 92% with typical use.

You're right that bare penis to vulva contact is a pregnancy risk, but you are on a very effective form of birth control.

The sexual activities you engaged in are also risky for STI transmission. Have you and your boyfriend been tested recently?


You said your boyfriend decided it was time for sex. What did you think?

Some more info about the pill is here:

Three questions about taking the birth control pill (and plenty of answers)

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Phoenix2784
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I've only missed a pill once and that was over 2 years ago. I took it with in a 6 hour window. We've both been tested very recently (Valentine's Day). I'm ok with the timing. I'm just worried because I'm a full time student and I'm not even close to being ready for kids. So I shouldn't be worried about the pregnancy risk??
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Missing a pill 2 years ago doesn't affect anything now. [Smile]

No, I see no reason to be concerned about pregnancy. If you're anxious, you can always take a home pregnancy test, but not until 14 days (or more) after the day of the sexual activity in question.

What do you think about using an additional birth control method so you feel less concerned about pregnancy risk?

The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Co ntrol With a Second Method


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We are going to use condoms as well.I was just out at the time and he was really "frisky". I ended up having to push him off.
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Is it typical for your boyfriend to decide the time is right for sex without consulting you about it? Partnered sex can't be decided by just one person, both people involved need to decide.

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I think it was just the heat of the moment. Something like that is normally out of character for him. I'm ready but it kinda just took me by surprise.
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Is this something you'd like to talk to him about? Just to let him know that you were surprised?

Before you pushed him off, how did you let him know that this wasn't the right thing for you right now?

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I let him know afterwards and he was ok with that. He knows that I have a lot on my plate with school right now. So I'm thinking of having a conversation about my beliefs in the buddy system when it comes to birth control. I'd rather be safe than sorry.
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Makes a lot of sense. [Smile]

You may find this helpful in having the conversation with him:
Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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