Heather, when you cross this, I know, I never expected to see myself posting in this section either...*sigh* For background, yes, I have had sex. I've used a condom every time. My girlfriend did try oral on me without a condom on around May of this year, but that was only licking, and she's . So about a week ago, I noticed that I developed a sore on the skin of my penis. At first, it was some dry blood, and I scratched at the dry blood, and I think I might have gotten it infected. So now there's a bit of a dip where the sore is, not a hole, but it is lower than the surface skin. Every time I get an erection, it rips, and it hurts! So I went to the school nurse because I was bleeding one day. I described it, she asked if I was having sex, and I said yes. She told me it sounded like herpes, but I've been with my girlfriend for over a year, and she was a virgin when we started having sex. She was a really shy girl who never kissed a guy, let alone anything more than kissing. So it can't be herpes. Here's what I think it is: I was circumcised wrong, and the skin is ripping now that my penis has grown to its current length, and I feel that it's going to rip more as I grow older, and it grows as well. So I made an appointment with the doctor on Monday. When he examines my penis, he looks at it, scrunches his eyes and looks closer. Then he says "Hmm. Wow. It looks like your foreskin is attached to the head of your penis gland." So for the past two years, I always thought it was a tad weird that I had most of my foreskin rolled back on the underside of my penis, and the very top lined up with my urethra is attached to the top of my penis. At first I thought it was to support the penis up, but then I found that not possible because a erect penis can hold itself up. So the doctor says that I now have to have surgery to correct that. I HIGHLY doubt that I have herpes now, but I still asked to get tested for sake of mind, because I did have one other girlfriend for a short period of time that I woke up at her house after falling asleep in her chair, and found her performing oral on my. I never had sex with her, and felt a little uncomfortable every since then. So I got blood drawn out to be tested. So here's what I'd like a response to besides any comments you might have from the above paragraph: Will it hurt? Doc said I'd get anesthesia, but I don't feel like having a needle stuck in my penis. Will it hurt afterward? How long will it take to heal down there? Will I be able to walk? Will I lose my sensation down there? I feel as if I'm "wrong", even though I know I had no control over it. I was circumcised in Panama, Central America. It isn't attached all the way, it's the foreskin around, then where there's supposed to be the line on top of the penis, there's like a "hood" where I can stick my finger under the skin, and then it attaches to the head of my penis. I would ask if it's really necessary, but I think it ripped in the first place because it's reached its stretching point, and now I'm sure that the more it grows, the longer it will get, and the more it'll rip. And my doctor said to wait till it heals, but I keep getting erections, and it keeps ripping, and getting caught on my pants. Now blisters ever showed, so again, not herpes. Comments?
This is in the wrong section and I don't see an option to move it to the expert's advice section Sorry Heather
My first thought it that before you sign up for surgery, I'd get a second opinion from another doctor. I'd probably see a urologist. You really want this evaluated by a qualified specialist. (I'd say that to anyone looking at surgery for any issue.)
Secondly, while it may or may not be related to your issue, do be clear that oral herpes can be transmitted in non-sexual ways. Many many people have oral herpes and most got it from normal things like sharing drinks or kisses from people with herpes (often when they were children). So your argument that it's not possible for your partner to have oral herpes is not necessarily correct.
For right now, you want to help this heal. Keep the area clean and dry. If you're finding it gets caught on your pants, try tucking a small piece of medical gauze in there to give it some protection. If you're noticing pain during erections, then try your best to avoid them. When you do get an erection, you may be able to help by gently applying pressure to the area just below it to sort of give the skin more slack so that it doesn't pull so much. If you're still having open sores, call your doctor and ask if there is anything you can put on the area to help it heal.
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(Just for the record, I'd concur with Sarah on this. Get a second opinion, and also ASK any doctor that suggests this surgery all of the questions you have asked here, as they're in the best position to answer them since they know exactly what they are proposing to do.)
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