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Jneedshelp
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Hi

My boyfriend was in me but with no ejaculation in me and at the very beginning of when we started to fool around, we then stopped because I know that type of thing can get you pregnant. I am not ovulating, and he did not ejaculate in me. I've gotten the morning after pill before, but usually not because I need it but becaudse I am paranoid. I am trying to work on this, and am wondering if I should take it or if it is just my worrying. Thanks

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Heather
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Unprotected sex, ejaculation or not, poses high risks of STIs and pregnancy.

I see you saying you need to work on your paranoia, but with a brief glimpse through your post history, I think you have sound reason to worry, and what it looks like to me is that you need to work on drawing a hard limit with partners that NO sex will happen if they are not 100% willing to have sex with you safely.

So, what's going on here? How can we help?

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Jneedshelp
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I have the sort of personality where I worry about consequences later on, which is definitely something that I have been working on. I have OCD so sometimes its hard to stop addictive behaviours (things like fooling around, drinking etc) I've been working on these issues for a while, but this time I was in the moment and didn't exercise the proper self control that I deserve. So I guess since I have a pregnancy risk I should get EC again? Some people say that it can effect you negatively if you take it too much, but my doctor disagrees. I've got a physical in January and I'm going to go back on the pill I think, and until then abstain.. I've just had this risk and am not sure which route to take
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Well, unprotected sex puts you at a high risk, so if you don't want to become pregnant, you'll probably want to take EC.

Are you in therapy for your OCD? Because if it's causing you to engage in risky behaviours like drinking or having unprotected sex, you really should be getting professional help.

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Jneedshelp
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Thanks for the answer, and yes I am in therapy for the OCD, I think it's been about 2 or 3 years of therapy now

Thanks

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Heather
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I want to add, though, that you being responsible with a sexual partner should not just lie on YOU.

So, it's one thing if you're choosing partners who come to the table, condom in hand, and you're refusing to use one. But when your partners aren't doing THEIR part -- especially given your OCD, as partners should make room for disabilities -- that means this isn't just about your behaviour, it's about theirs, too.

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