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stressed8689
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hi! I'm new here & really need advice and your site has been answering a lot of my questions and put my mind at ease a little but I need some direct advie. Ok on november 11 me and my bf of 3 yrs had sex (not the first time) I have a pretty irregular period. In september I got in on the 5th and october I got in on the 15 th november 5 th came nd nothing.then on the 11th we had sex. November 15 th came and nothing. On the 19th I had spotting. Very dark,almost like dry blood then the next day it was very lite nd stopped. We used a condom as we do everytime and he pulled out b4 he ejaculated and check the condom for any small holes. No breaks or anything. Now its december 6 still no period just that wierd bleeding for 2 days. I took 4 first response pregnancy tests all negative. I took one on november 21 one on november 23 one on november 30th nd 1 on december first. All negative. I've been having wierd cramps some pre period type cramps nd stomach pain. I am so stressed out please help asap thnk you so much
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Honey, you are SO not pregnant. Really.

You have had four pregnancy tests, all negative. And you were using a reliable method of birth control properly, so did not likely have a risk in the first place.

How long have you had your period, and how long has it been irregular for? When was your last GYN exam and general checkup with your regular doctor? Sounds to me like those are the things to check in with just to find out what the deal is with your irregularity and stomach cramps, bot worrying about pregnancy.

At the very least, quit worrying now: that may well be some of why you don't feel so well.

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umm I've had my period for about 5 or 6 years. Its always been pretty irregular maybe 2 months in a row ill get it on the same day and then the following month I won't. So then what do you think that wierd bleeding was about for two days I was soo scared bc I thought it was implantation bleeding. And ever since then I've had these stomach pains and what feels like pre period cramps. So where's my period I'm so scared. Its december so if I don't get it this month then I missed 2 periods. I can't tell my doctord cause I can't tell my mom! Thnks soooo much when I read the first sentence u wrote I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders!!
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You know, it doesn't sound like your irregular periods have anything to do with being sexually active. It's perfectly reasonable to want to go to the doctor and get that checked out just to make sure everything is okay -- have you tried approaching your mom from that angle? (By the way, your doctor is obligated to preserve your privacy.)

Something else to keep in mind, the gynecologist isn't just for women who are having sex: every menstruating woman needs one. In the meantime The Cycles Page can help you track your periods. You might be able to find some sort of pattern but if not that information could be helpful when you do go to the gyne.

These articles may be helpful as well:
M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?
Your First Gynecologist Visit

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Okk thnks for your help but what would you say that bleeding was all about? So you really don't think I'm pg and idk if its psychological but I feel like my stomach is getting hard. I've also been urinating alot
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Okk thnks for your help but what would you say that bleeding was all about? So you really don't think I'm pg and idk if its psychological but I feel like my stomach is getting hard. I've also been urinating alot
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Okk thnks for your help but what would you say that bleeding was all about? So you really don't think I'm pg and idk if its psychological but I feel like my stomach is getting hard. I've also been urinating alot
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OMG I'M SO SORRY ABOUT ALL THE SAME POSTS I KNO YOU GUYS HAVE STRICT RULES ABOUT THAT!! I was having problems with my computer and it sent like 3 posts sorry
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(It's okay; we can usually tell when someone's got a computer glitch going on, and it happens to us all. [Smile] )

We couldn't really tell you what's making your periods irregular; there are a lot of things that can affect it, ranging from diet changes to stress to illnesses, and this is why Jill recommended you see a gyn to get things checked out. (Which may not be a bad idea, if you're frequently urinating and getting stomach pains right now, you may have a UTI or something brewing anyway.)

You're not pregnant; if you're really worried, you can always take a test just to ease your mind.

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Okk thnks so much I guess its the stress I had a throat infection around the time I was supposed to get my period so I was on antibiotics plus stressed about by period being late && depressed cuz that time made a year since my grandma paaed away soo I guess all these factors played a role I just hope I get my period this month! Thnks for everything u guys are great!!
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hey I know you already gave me some advice but its december 12 i should be getting my period on the 15th but i do not have signifigant symptoms that I'm getting my period. It may be psychological but I feel like my stomach is getting herder and bigger!! the only signs i have my period is coming is some cramps and a pimple. But I also have stomach pains? maybe its in my head . Do you think that 2 days of bleeding in november I mentioned in my previous posts was implantation bleeding? Please I'm so scared I don't know what to do. I took another hpt still negative . That made 5!! Could they all be wrong its been long enough yesterday made a month since i had sex.
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Sweetie, even if you were pregnant, your stomach would not be harder or bigger yet. And implantation bleeding, when it does happen, is really light.

Antibiotics and stress can definitely be havoc on your cycle. You haven't really had a pregnancy risk here and you've had multiple negative pregnancy tests...you are not pregnant.

You've got to relax about this and let it go. The more stressing you do about this, the worse it's likely making the problem.

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Thank you soo much you guys are amazing and sooo reassuringgg!! I have my normal pre period cramps so hopefully its coming anyday now!! Thnks soooo muchhhhhh =))))
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