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puppet_head
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Ok, so,I had sex with my bf, stupidly i let him enter me without a condom on, he didnt ejaculate in me though, but i know i can still get preg from the pre sperm stuff, i was wondering what my chances were of being preg tho? im 5 days late for my period but did a test today and it was negative. 4 months ago i had a baby, i was really ill - had severe preeclampsia and my baby was born at 30 weeks, my body isnt still completely right from the preeclampsia, im scared im preg again and im going to have to go through all of this again.
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This page on the main site will guide you through your risk level for intercourse.

Generally, you should test 14 days after the last pregnancy risk OR the first day of a missed period -- though we often recommend the first, because often young women (or, in your case, a post-natal mum) can't accurately gauge when their next period will be. If you have tested within this timeframe, you should be able to trust the results. [Smile]

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I still cant help worrying, how accurate are preg tests?
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The most common failure is a false negative caused by testing too early. If HPT's are taken at the correct time, they are virtually foolproof. The vast majority of women who are pregnant will test positive by 14 days past ovulation/pregnancy risk.
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Pregnancy tests are very accurate, you just have to follow the instructions (as Lauren mentioned, taking it about 14 days after the risk or with the first day of a missed period). You can always get two tests and use the second ones a couple of days later to double-check, if that makes you feel better about it.

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Welcome puppet_head. [Smile]

I can't add anything to what Lauren and September have already said but there do seem to be a couple of side issues here. First, are condoms the best choice of birth control right now? As you know, if you don't use them consistently, they just aren't that effective. Margaret Sanger's Disneyland: Choosing Contraceptives gives you a list of options.

Second, and more importantly [quote]stupidly i let him enter me without a condom on[/quote[ that concerns me. Safer sex is just as much his responsibility as it is yours. And when you say you let him do something that makes me wonder if he's pressuring you to have unprotected sex. If so, that's wrong, plain and simple. We're more than will to help you decide on some boundaries and then enforce those limits if that will be helpful.

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