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Ive been sleeping with my boyfriend for about a month. i'm not on the pill but he never cums inside me he always pulls it out just before. i know there is still a risk and im over a week late on my period! i did a pregnancy test and it was negative. but i'm still really worried.. how likely is that the test was wrong? and could i really be pregnant?
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Miss, you've been putting yourself at tremendous risk by having unprotected sex. Not only for unexpected pregnancy, but STDs as well. STDs are no little risk; you can assess your risk here: A Quickie STD/STI Risk Assessment. Withdrawal is not a birth control method because pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, so your pregnancy risk is very high.

Pregnancy tests should be taken 14 days after the last time you had unprotected sex. Otherwise, they may not be accurate.

So what you can do now? You can take another pregnancy test at the appropriate time, and call a clinic to set up STD testing for yourself and your partner. Also, it's time to sit down with your partner and have a discussion about how to take care of your sexual health in the future.

links for you:
Safe, Sound & Sexy ? A Safer Sex How-To
Margaret Sanger?s Disneyland - An easy chart of your birth control options
Testing, Testing?

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I know that i havnt got a std. we were both checked out before we sleeped together.
so there is a high risk this preganacy test was wrong. Is there any other symptoms apart from a missed period that will help me figure this out??

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We can't give you a percentage chance that the test is wrong, it's difficult to know such things. We always encourage taking a second test (usually a week later) to check the results.

Really sweetie, I'd encourage you to begin using condoms with your partner immediately unless you really want to get pregnant. Pulling out is NOT birth control. Pre-ejaculate, which contains sperm, is present throughout the course of an erection (even if your partner can't feel it or notice it, I promise it's still there). So way before he pulled out, there were lots of little sperm swimming away in there.

And about the STD thing, we always recommend not considering yourselves even moderately safe until you've been magomous for at least 6 months, using safer sex practices the entire time and have had two clean STD screens. And even then, understand that there is still a risk since some STDs are difficult to test for without symptoms being present, some STDs can crop up on their own (yeast infections, for instance), and some STDs can be passed non-sexually.

Go ahead and take another pregnancy test, or go to your doctor or local Planned Parenthood or other health care practicioner and have them give you a test. And then pick up some condoms and/or consider some other form of birth control. "Pulling out" is not birth control, it's playing with fire.

Sarah Liz
Scarleteen Sexpert (and Labia Lady)

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