yikes! okay so me and my boyfriend have had sex a couple times without a condom, the sex was spur of the moment and theyre wasnt one around for miles. he told me he would pull out but that didnt make me feel much better since my best friend got pregnant even though her boyfriend pulled out. well anyway we had sex without the condom and him pulling out : / it's been over 24 hours and too late for me to take the morning after pill. and i cant really talk to him about it since he says he doesnt want a kid right now. but he promised me he would take care of the kid if i ever did get pregnant. that made me feel a little better, but now i have to tell my mom about the possibility i might be pregnant with my 21 year old boyfriend! im only 15 !!! my mom really likes my boyfriend and im pretty sure she knows were having sex. i dont think she'll be mad at me, just disappionted! help!!
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You have 72 hours to take the Emergency Contraception Pill, and have it work its best, but it is possible to take it after that time, and have a chance of it working. And STOP having sex, go get an STI screen, talk to a doctor or gynecologist about possibly using hormonal birth control (pills, patch, shot), get a gross of condoms, face up to the idea that having sex means you do have a pregnancy and disease risk, and what that means to you (a lot more than just having to tell your mum), and when you've done all those things again, and are completely comfortable with the idea of what being responsible about sex means, you can think about becoming sexually active again.
I'd suggest you have a good, thorough look through all the articles on this site while you're at it, too.
------------------ Milke, with an L, SSBD, RATS, TMNTP
First of all, it is NOT too late to get emergency contraception (ie. morning after pill). EC is the most effective if taken within the first 72 hours after the incident. So get yourself to a clinic or emergency room ASAP.
You'll also need STD testing, as will your boyfriend.
I'd also suggest that you make it a new policy to say NO to spur of the moment condomless sex. It's not safe, as you know. Frankly, if your partner doesn't want a kid right now, then he should be taking responsibility too. If he doesn't want a kid right now, then it's also his responsibility to make sure the two of you are protected. And as to not being able to talk to him about it...if you can't talk to him about sex and its potential risks, then you probably have no business being sexually active with this person. Not wanting a baby or an STD doesn't mean you won't end up with one, especially if you're not taking adequate precautions.
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