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I have a predicament, last summer I made these great friends, one is 3 years younger than the rest and he kinda fell for me but I was able to put it off since I was seeing someone and he moved across the state. Now he's back visiting his dad more and more and thinks his parents are getting back together so we've been hanging out a lot again. Last week he asked if it was bad that he wanted to kiss me (I thought it was cute) and I told him a kiss is just a kiss, right? A few days later we were alone and (I know it's bad) drinking a bit and we started making out. He wants to be the full thing, exclusive and all. I do really like him but I'm concerned about legalities even though it's mostly seemingly meant to protect girls. I just can't figure out exactly how everything goes.
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Welcome to the boards, runningcircles.

Age of consent laws apply to people of all genders. They also rarely include kissing.

Legally, in Washington state, the age of consent is 16.

However, if you are giving him alcohol, not only are both of you breaking the law, since neither of you are 21, as the legal adult, giving a minor alcohol is a crime, and doing things like that certainly suggests a situation where someone older isn't being mindful or very thoughtful of the fact they they are an adult, and the other person isn't, if you follow me.

So, legalities aside, I'd say the bigger thing to think about here is if you think moving forward into dating is something you feel able to handle, including having and holding an awareness that, as a person who is a legal adult while the other is a minor, you're going to have more influence and more responsibility here, legally and otherwise.

[ 08-13-2013, 12:04 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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