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Hi, this is my first post on Scarleteen and I just want to start off by saying thank you in advance for the support! I'm so glad I decided to join this community.

I'm at the age (mid teens) where I feel I should start visiting an OB/GYN. The problem is, I don't have a very close relationship with my mother and don't feel comfortable talking to her about it. (I love her very very much, but we just do not talk about sexuality or other really personal topics)

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we've been fooling around for many months now (oral sex is as far as we've gone). We're always very safe, and we both feel emotionally ready for sex. He has condoms for whenever I'm ready and we've decided that he will pull out before ejaculating as well. However I don't want to go all the way without first talking to an OB/GYN. I would like birth control pills mainly to alleviate the intense cramps and bloating I get when I'm on my period, but would also like to have it to ease my mind about sex.

I have a physical coming up next week at my doctor's office and I was wondering how I could bring up the topic of starting visits with the OB/GYN? I really need your help!

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Welcome to the boards, a1d2! [Smile]

Do you know if your regular doctor provides that kind of healthcare? Many GPs do, so if you feel comfortable seeing them for it, you may be able to get that care right from them.

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Hi a1d2, and welcome to Scarleteen!

If you feel uncomfortable talking to your mom specifically about sexuality, maybe approaching this from the angle of looking into taking birth control to make your cramps better would be helpful?

Since you have an upcoming physical, that would be a good time to ask your doctor about having a gynecological exam. Your doctor may send you to a specialist, but some family practitioners can take care of this sort of exam as well.

Also, if you haven't seen this article, you may find it helpful: Your First Gynecologist Visit

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Thank you both!! [Smile]
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