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I am glad to hear you have such an honest and open relationship! Then it should also be no biggie to bring up your concerns around STIs. The thing is that he can't be 100% certain of anything if he has neve been tested. However, we're not saying that he does have an STI, or that he is wilfully deceiving you. There are lots of misconceptions around STIs out there, and finding the facts can be hard. So, it should be fine for you to bring up to him that you feel uncomfortale, that you would like the both of you to be proactive about taking charge of your reproductive health, and then suggest you two get tested together.
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Okay I already borough It up he says that he will get tested if I want him too. I have a question. Okay so my Vulva is red and it's burning a little bit I am applying vagisil and its getting a little better I just bought it yesterday but I see the difference when the whole incident happen I had shaved earlier that day and before my boyfriend did what he did he was rubbing it down there but with my underwear and clothes on and he kind of did it hard and for a while can it just be that my clothes irratated my skin or should I be concerned? And are all sti life threatening and not curable I am so scared
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I was wearing jean high waisted shorts and it does not hurt when I pee I feel fine. But it just stings a little not like before. And it's not as red either its going down
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The only one who can determine the source of your redness and itching is a doctor. If it's already lessening after just a day, you might have been looking at some irritation from shaving and should be fine. However, if it's not completely gone withing another day or so, I would still suggest a visit to the doctor. And for the future, you'll want to avoid self-medicating: if you go for the wrong treatment, you may wind up making things worse rather than better.
As for STIs, most of them are actually easily treatable if you catch them early enough. That is part of why getting tested regularly is so important. You can get an overview over all STIs here: STI Risk Assessment: The Cliff's Notes Just click on the name to find out more, including treatment options.
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I am just scared of getting HIV because that is the worst thing you can get everything else is treatable. Posts: 52 | Registered: Jan 2013
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Well, everything else is treatable so long as a person actually gets tested often to identify an infection and then can get treatment. As well, getting any STI can create health complications, some short-term, some long term. So, prevention really is key.
If both of you aren't getting regularly tested AND also aren't practicing safer sex (like using barriers and getting tested)? Then this really isn't something to figure is no big whoop or to blow off, because that's pretty much exactly how people wind up with STIs in the first place, you know?
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