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My girlfriend is just a little worried about her up coming period. We have not had sex since Feb.(the last time I posted here will tell that story) and she did end up having her period, only that time the cramps were the worst she'd ever had it was fairly heavy.
Her next period is supposed to be in about 4 days and she said she feels different. Normally she gets breast tenderness and some mild cramping and a little moody. But she is this close to her period and she has no breast pain, which she normally always has and this is just a little concerning to her. (She knows that periods change and she finally got her mom to take her to an OB-GYN after this next period so she's hoping they can also help her with some sort of birth control which is why we have not had sex since Feb.) Also, around St. Pat's weekend, she said she went to the bathroom and when she wiped, there was a lot spotting on the tissue and it really freaked her out. She took a home test, though we hadn't done anything and she just wanted to be sure nothing odd had happened, and it came back negative. She hasn't had much of an appetite and she is just really hoping it's a hiccup in her cycle or something. We would both like to know what could possibly going on. (and we also know that you are not doctors, but your words are very comforting in times like these.)
Thanks very much.
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It sounds like she's having a cycle that's just a bit out of the ordinary for her. Spotting also isn't that uncommon and can happen for all sorts of reasons. She can ask her gyn about it at her appointment, but I'm not hearing anything that's cause for concern here.
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She's had spotting before but when she had it around that weekend, it was earlier in the morning and she said it was like a lot came out at once and it wasn't like a bright blood color but actually darker. And the rest of the day it was just a little spotting the it eventually stopped.
It just really spooked her.
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Old blood (that is, blood that's been sitting around for a while) can be darker in colour.
As Karybu said, nothing you describe sounds like a cause for concern. However, it sounds like your girlfriend's cycle changes are worrying her, and, if it's possible, sitting down with a doctor and discussing things might reassure her.
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She just really doesn't want to have her mom go back on her deal about after this up coming period taking her to the GYN. She is very excited to go and learn from her doctor and get a little more understanding.
So even though it was almost more then a week after her period, more blood could be shedding?
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You mean, your partner is worried about her mom changing her mind about taking her to the GYN?
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Well, she's just a little confused on why she had a lot of bleeding around that time. Her period started on the 3rd of March then on the 17th when she went to the bathroom there was just a lot of the tissue I guess. (She told me about that later that night) but it wasn't like that the rest of the day (It was like that bunch then is was very little the rest of the day), she was spotting a little before that day and a little after.
And yes, she's afraid that if this period just kinda skips that her mom will not take her until next month and she just would like to go now so she doesn't worry so much about her cycle changing. Her mom is very unhelpful about all this.. If anything she makes her worrying about this worse.
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I'd suggest she bring this up to her mother that she's worried about her not taking her. It may be her mom really doesn't know she's causing her to worry more. And yes, the bleeding could have been from the previous cycle still - but there's really no way of knowing for sure.
What I might suggest too is having them set an appointment. They can always be moved back IF she gets her period a bit late or it lasts a bit long. But if it does skip then she can get that checked out then.
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Alright, she will try and talk to her mom about it. Her mother is just very hard to talk to about things like this.. We both just want her to get checked out so that way she can have a better understanding about all of these new changes. (She's still feeling a little off..)
Hopefully she can get an appointment made soon.
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So tomorrow is when she's supposed to start and just in case she doesn't she really shouldn't worry right? (She did end up getting some breast tenderness but it's not as much as normal and she also still has the bloating and minor lower back pain and such.) She should just relax and wait for it to happen?
How should she approach this with her mom if it doesn't happen this month? Just say it didn't happen and she doesn't know why? (She did look back at her charting from when she started from March last year and it is very random.. It goes from March: 33,30,30,31,35,36,29,33,31,25. She is really irregular ^^; )
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AND HOW MANY DAYS HAS IT BEEN NOW?
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She technically isn't supposed to start till tomorrow too (according to her chart) and she does not enjoy having such a long cycle. haha We just didn't know what to do if she does happen to be late.
Yes we did. We haven't done anything since then either. We've decided that we should wait till she talks to her gyn and such.
No problem. hahaha things happen. ^^
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No, I don't imagine she does enjoy having such a long cycle.
It sounds as if even if her period doesn't come tomorrow it still won't technically be late.
WE can talk about what to do if she doesn't get her period if that happens. It occurs to me though that she could talk to her Mom about wanting to see the doctor about her irregular cycles.
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That's one of the first things she wants to talk about with her doctor. She's going to just tell her mom to call the doc and make an appointment either tomorrow or Wednesday just so there is a time set up.
What should we do if she doesn't get her period at all?
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Again, if she doesn't get her period we'll be happy to talk then about what to do next.
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Oh. Alright. Well, hopefully I (or she if I'm at work) will be able to post that it did start.
Thank you very much. (We will just edit this post with if she did or didn't and will give it a few days if she didn't.)
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Well, she didn't get her period yesterday.. We both have had no sexual intercourse, so we know there is no way she would be pregnant. (She did take tests and they were all negative)
So, should we just still give it a few days and see what happens?
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Periods can fluctuate by several days, as we've talked about before.
There's nothing alarming about anything you've said.
As I think we've talked about before, though, it does sound like these irregularities are alarming your girlfriend and perhaps if she chatted with her doctor it would help her.
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Her mom is calling the doc tomorrow so hopefully she will be able to get in soon.
She's trying to stay relaxed and just wait it out and we are both sure that it will happen eventually. We just didn't know if there was anything she should be looking out for or checking for in the mean time.
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You have had no sexual activity that would lead to pregnancy risk?
Anything else she should look out for is more in the medical realm of things, and it sounds like she's feeling fine, just hasn't gotten her period yet. Really, it's not unusual for young women to have these crazy cycles. As a Scarleteen volunteer I generally don't share much of my personal self, but if it's any consolation, I played this waiting game your girlfriend is playing through most of my teenage years. It's really not that unusual.
Glad to hear she'll get in to see a doctor if that's what will help her feel more relaxed.
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