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Dear Heather,

I’ve been noticing something on the BB that’s been bothering me. I’ve been noticing people stating that they’re cis (which is really cool,) but then stating they go out with cis-guys or cis-girls instead of saying gay, bi, lesbian, straight, queer, etc.

For example:

((don't really want to use any post as an example publicly, if you need I'll send a "contact us" meaasge))

When the whole point was to tell people that it’s really hard/impossible to tell a trans guy/gal from a cis guy/gal. And that someone who is just “gay” would probably be attracted to both kinds of guy. And if you’re only attracted to cis guys then you shouldn’t say that you’re still gay *because* they’re not *really* guys (or a lesbian saying she wasn’t bi *because* her trans man partner was actually a special kind of woman). And now I see a lot of people saying, instead, that they’re only attracted to cis-whatever. And I’m worried that somehow, the communication has gotten seriously crossed. And if so, what can we do to fix it. Actually, it should be what can I do to fix it, seeing how this is way more my responsibility than yours.

I was just wondering if I was imagining things. I wanted to get a second opinion.

Thank you for reading,

We are all made of Star Stuff...
-Carl Sagan

...Their eyes beheld, first of all things, the stars of heaven.

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Examples of this would be helpful, if you don't mind sending them,because I'm afraid I haven't noticed any of this.

I assume we're talking about posts in which someone isn't noting whether who they date is cis, trans or something else because they're trying to give us information about body parts?

Heather Corinna, Executive Director & Founder, Scarleteen
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