me and my boyfriend have been having sex for a while...and well i cant seem to have a orgasm without clitoral stimulation..is their a way i can have a orgasm without it.We have tried things before it but we dont really have a lot of time.and we usually get tired to. All my friends dont have to have clit stimulation..well can you please help me because i really would like to have sex with my boyfriend withoug having to rub my clit. is it even possible?
I actually doubt that's true about all of your friends, since the majority of women, with genital sex, cannot reach orgasm through intercourse alone. Maybe some of your friends are in that minority, but what's more likely is that some of them are either being dishonest, or simply don't understand what that means or where their clitoris is, or what clitoral stimulation can be.
So, it is possible for some women, sometimes, to reach orgasm through intercourse alone (which, by the way, is still stimulating some of the clitoris, as there are internal portions, too). But not all the time, and not for most women.
Adding clitoral or other stimulation to intercourse is something many people who have and enjoy intercourse to do, both to reach orgasm, but also just because it feels good. Can I ask why it's bumming you out so much to engage in something that I assume feels good for you and is also so common?
As well, if the issue is about not having enough time to engage in sex that's about more than intercourse, then that's likely going to be something you want to fix regardless, since it's unlikely nothing but quickie intercourse sessions would feel all that satisfying for either of you, even if you DID orgasm through only that activity by itself.
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