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So me and my new bf was having sex for the first time. I told him that he had to wear a condom on, so he was putting it on ( in the dark) and well so I thought. When he entered me it was pretty painful and I wanted to stop, when I grabbed his dick to stop I realised that there was no condom on! He tricked me into thinking that he had one on , when he didn't . When I argued about it to him, he turns to me and says he hates condoms. I told him to put it on or just forget about it. He then takes another out, but then trys the stunt all over again! Where as this time he didn't enter. I told him to put it on or go. An he went, saying now that he is allergic to latex condoms.Joke right!!! I was quite upset with him that he went because I really wanted him to stay.
I think that he is lieing and wants me to feel sorry for him and just forget about wearing condoms for his sake.I want to know how I can educate him about condoms. Meaning how can we talk about it face to face (Conversational) And am I in a risk of and Std or someting , he only gave me about 6 strokes before I had realised there was no condom.

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I've got to be frank here and say that someone who tries to trick you, twice, into believing they are using a method of protection they are not, especially when you've made it clear that you insist on condom use, is probably not someone who is a safe partner for you to have. He has lied to you and tried to manipulate you, and that doesn't make him sound like he is a caring, honest, trustworthy partner.

Since you have had unprotected genital contact, you should also consider yourself at risk for having contracted an STI, as well as pregnancy, and you will want to make an appointment to get tested.

If you do chose to talk to him about this and give him another chance, these articles should help you out there:
Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner
Condom Basics: A User's Manual

(Too? You can also let him know that polyurethane condoms are a great alternative for people who are allergic to latex. So if he truly is allergic, he could have let you know in advance and made sure he had some polyurethane condoms on hand.)

But, bottom line? I'd really encourage you to think long and hard about whether you want to continue to be sexually active with someone who has so clearly shown a blatant disregard for your health and safety.

[ 04-27-2010, 11:31 AM: Message edited by: September ]

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