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criminskeyes
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Im 15 and male, to get that out of the way.

in the past when i had tried to have sex with my girlfriend i would find that when i was ready for penetration, my erection would be basically gone, or not stiff enough for penetration. This made me feel, well, pretty crap, i felt like i was letting my girlfriend down, and i would be disappointed in myself because i thought something was wrong...

So im over that now, and i lost my virginity in the past few days with her. but i still had the same frustrating problem, i was fully erect and when i actually got inside, i got a few thrusts in before i noticed my erection was going away. I didnt want to stop because it was our first time together but nothing changed, my erection completely disappeared. this all happened in about 15 seconds.

My question is, is there a way i can bypass this problem, because it seems to not be going away after about 2-3 months and is only present when i try to initiate sex. It may just be nervous but i didnt feel it at all, i dont know. I feel like ive let my girlfriend down, again. And im feeling pretty bad.

That doesn't really leave a question for you, but i just need some advice [Smile]

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JamsessionVT
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You haven't let anyone down. And I can tell you right now that allowing yourself to get down about this will likely only make things worse.

Anxiety is the biggest cause if something like this. Had you and your partner talked about having sex before, planned things out, were comfortable with yourselves sexually and being sexual with one another?

I would encourage you to check out this article, as well:

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/ed_why_you_dont_have_to_get_so_down_about_not_getting_it_up

Given your age, I don't think is ED (not even close), but it's a good article to look at regardless because it does outline some of the issues that could be causing your difficulty maintaining an erection.

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criminskeyes
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thanks [Smile]
my partner and i had considered sex for quite a while (2-3 months). I consider our relationship to be very open so we've discussed it, risks, etc and we are very comfortable with each other.

Ill give the article a read, thanks again for your help [Smile]

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