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Hi! I've been in a relationship for almost a year and a half now, and things are going great. I'm not having any personal trouble with keeping intimacy or any other part of my relationship going; but I was just wondering, how do couples make time for intimacy? I don't think it's something that's really planned, but it's also something that isn't done out of obligation. For me, it just happens when it happens, when the feeling is right, but what do you do when you're busy? As a college student, I'm focused on work and my job and everything in between, and I'm sure it only gets harder with age-so what can you do to keep it going?

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I'm actually not sure it gets so much tougher with age, because as you get older, you often get a bit better at juggling all the things you're juggling right now by virtue of experience with doing so.

Too, you also will often have more resources as you get older. For instance, at my age, it's a lot easier for me -- even though I often am jam-packed with work -- to schedule and afford a weekend getaway with a partner, more so than it often was when I was just starting out in my adult life. It's also often a lot easier to find privacy when you're older and you don't have roommates or parents you live with. [Smile]

One tip I can give you is just to do your best with someone to have dates: periods of time that are just about the two of you with some frequency. Personally, I'm all about making sure that now and then, there's not just a night or an afternoon open, but a period of time that's a good 24-48 hours. A long stretch like that can hep make up for weeks or months where everyone got really busy and short of time.

What you do with those times may vary, but sometimes when couples settle into being couples, and out of dating...well, they stop dating! Obviously, too, sometimes you just wind up with unscheduled windows of time where you can be with someone, and the spontaneaity of that can be good stuff.

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thanks for the advice!! when i said "tougher with age" i assumed that as you get older, you might have more things to juggle, but having never been there, i didn't think about it! it does make more sense that you'd learn better how to juggle stuff and have more privacy!! =D sorry for the confusion

also, while i have the chance, you're book is absolutely amazing! it's helped me so much and i've given it to all of my friends to look at. thank you for keeping teens and young adults like myself informed. Knowledge is power!!

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You probably will have some more to juggle, but you'll probably be better at it. [Smile]

And thank you so much for that! I'm always happy to hear that about the book, and so glad it's been of use to you.

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