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Okay, so a couple of months ago, my boyfriend and I were having sex and I think we were too rough, because I felt something being torn. I'm not sure what it was but I noticed a slight tear on some of the skin around the opening - not on the inside, but on the outside... like, little flaps. I don't really know how to explain it better.
So we let it heal and then it stopped hurting and we had sex again, and everything was fine and dandy until it tore... again.
I gave it a week to heal (the same amount of time I gave it last time) but it hasn't, not completely. It usually doesn't hurt when I have sex but there are certain positions that it hurts. Sometimes it's really painful and it hurts a LOT.
I've been feeling around down there and there's this weird raised scar, it feels like a raised ridge of skin, on the inside towards the left. I think that's what makes intercourse painful.
My question is, will this ever heal at all? I've given it another week now, and I hope that next time my boyfriend and I have sex it doesn't hurt. But this is really detrimental to my enjoyment, because a) I keep expecting it to hurt, and it makes me anxious b) we can't have sex in certain positions that I enjoy, such as girl-on-top and c) I keep thinking that it's never going to heal and I'll never have pain-free sex again.
Could it be because the little 'flap' of skin keeps getting pulled during intercourse? And will that weird scar on the inside ever go away? My reasoning is that it would probably heal, given that women are equipped to push babies out of the vagina, and a penis is nothing compared to that. But I just want some advice.
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It sounds to me like this was your hymen. If it was right around or *just* inside your actual vaginal opening, it was likely hymenal tissue, and it's normal for it to wear away over time, sometimes get microtears in that process, and for that to be a gradual process.
As well, eventually, when most of the hymen has worn away, it's normal for some residual bits of it to remain just inside the vaginal opening. That shouldn't interfere with anything, though.
This should resolve itself over time. Are you using plenty of extra lubriacnt with intercourse?
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Again, the hymen wears away over time, gradually.
But too, if you're not using lube, you may have more tears, or may also find that you might have microtears to your vaginal opening or vagina. Adding lube shouldn't really cause a lack of sensation when lube is needed, and if you're getting vaginal tears frequently, it probably IS needed, since even hymenal tissue is pretty flexible when lubricated, so in wearing away, should be gradually stretching more than tearing.
So, if you want a second opinion, or this keeps happening, checking in with your sexual healthcare provider would be sound, too, just to make sure this is about your hymen.
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