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Bun Bun
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Since my boyfriend and I both are STI free, and I've been on the birth control pill for 4 and a half months now, I've been thinking a lot about stopping using condoms. Even though we use plenty of lube (love it!), I still find condoms a little irritating. I am sensitive to latex (especially bandaids that aren't latex free), but we have tried both brands of polyurethane condoms that are sold here and both do not fit properly, and actually cause my boyfriend pain.

Currently, I feel pretty alright with protection of the just the pill alone. We have tried sex without a condom (and loved it) but he did not ejaculate. I'm working towards getting myself to trust my pills completely. I am a PERFECT pill user to the T, so I should be getting the full protection.

Until I feel ready to have condom-less sex, I was wondering if you all had any advice pertaining to hygeine after sex? Will ejaculate alter the chemistry of my vagina significantly, and if so, how can I help prevent infections?

Any other advice on the matter would be greatly apprieciated!

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diamonds4lucy
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Hey there, Bun Bun.

Ejaculate does slightly alter the environment of the vagina; you may find that your vagina smells slightly different after contact with semen.

The same basic "hygiene" and such that applies to sex with condoms also applies to sex without condoms- urinating before and after intercourse, using lube, etc.

You might want to give Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions and Sexual Health 101: Hers to get an idea of what is and isn't normal in terms of your your body and health.

Hope this has helped!

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Bun Bun
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Thanks!

I'll be sure to read both!

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Heather
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Too: is your boyfriend putting a few drops of lubricant inside the poly condoms before he puts them on?

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brizzle
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i think i had sex. crazy i know. me & my signifigant other were fooling around and he started fingering me. after a while i was just like do it. he didn't have a condom. i was dripping when he was fingering me, but when the time cam for him to insert his penis, it got dry. it hurt like hell when he finally did get it in. & least i think he got it in. i don't know if he did or not. he said it was but i thought sex was supposed to feel good. it hurt & my cherry has alredy been popped, so why did it hurt so bad ?

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Bun Bun
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No, Heather, we actually didn't have lube at that time. However, they were INCREDIBLY small and restricting. He was almost in pain putting them on because the ring at the bottom was just too small.

We use large size latex condoms now, and definitely use lots of lube. They fit him great!

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brizzle, this area is for volunteer and staff replies only, and if you have a question, you need to start your own post. You can do that by clicking "New Topic" on any board page. Thanks.

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