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I've had two sex partners, and both of them would have orgasms very quickly. Within 1 minute usually. By the time I'd have a single orgasm, they'd usually say they had 3 or more. My penis isn't amazingly huge or anything ( a little over 7 inches), but both partners said the reason it was over so quickly was because of size. My first partner and I were together over a year, and during that year, I only managed to get her to stick with sex long enough during a single session for me to orgasm like 2 times.
I really want things to be better with my second partner, but after our first few times together, she is doing the same thing, coming very quickly. She at least is willing to help me out after she's through, but still, it's annoying. Without condoms it's a little better for me, and I get closer before my partners break off, but my new partner isn't on the pill, so that really isn't an option. Is there something I can do to come quicker, or make my partner last the 5 to 10 minutes I need?
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Sex isn't just intercourse: it's a whole lot of activities. You and your partner can discuss other options that may allow you to operate at the same pace, as it were. Try out a few, and see what works.
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We're working on that, but I know it's making my current partner feel inadequate, and making me uncomfortable as well. Is there no good solution for intercourse, other than alternate activities?
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Honestly the best thing that you can do is to talk to your partner. An open communication session is the best way that you both can get feelings and thoughts out into the open. What we can't tell you is exactly what will help with the two of you simply because sex as a whole is a very individual process.
Communicating some thoughts and ideas early can give you a place to start - but remember too that a partner giving little directions along the way can also help. Something else to note is that the more comfortable you and your partner become together the longer sex will likely be able to take place.
Sometimes we go into a sexual relationship with preconceived notions about what it's supposed to be like and forget that what it's really like is very individual and often not exactly what we had pictured. The more you can talk openly and honestly though the more you'll both be able to meet the wants and needs of your partner.
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