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I have not lived with my parents for 2 years now. I am a full time student, but I am still dependent on them. My lease was up on my apartment, and when I found a new house and roommate, I told my father about it and he said it was a stupid idea. When my mom asked him about it later he told he that I had asked to move and he said "no". I would be paying for the rent, so I am not sure why he is being like this. My parents house is about 30+ minutes away from my campus...which isn't horrible, except that traffic and parking are awful, and I really just want a space of my own to be alone and see my friends etc. I don't want to make my dad angry and again he IS paying for my tuition. I would like to have a normal college experience like I have been for the past 2 years though. What should I do?
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Sounds like you need to sit down and negotiate exactly what the agreement is with your parents paying your tuition and decide if that's workable for you.

In other words, is it contingent upon you living at home? If it is not, and you are a legal adult, then it's not up to them where you live. If, however, he wants to make you living at home a condtion of paying your tuition, then you need to know that 9and any other conditions) and consider it.

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Please do not double post it is against the guidelines you agreed to when you registered.

It seems this question would be better suited for the Relationships forum, where you also posted:;f=3;t=008624

(that will allow you to get a wider scope of replies), so we'll leave that topic open for people to reply in, and close this topic here, alright? (If you'd prefer to receive staff and volunteer response only, just let us know and we can close that one instead).

ETa: Oops! Heather beat me with a response

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