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please help me im confused and nervous.. im 17 the other day my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time for me it was but it was only for maybe 5 mins i believe b/c he used a condom, i think trojan ultra thin with spermicide lubricant on it and i had him tell me when he felt it coming so he wouldnt cum inside of me and what he did was pull out as he felt it coming so we stopped. i dont think there were any tears in the condom cause he took it off and he didnt cum inside of it, he had me jerk him off to get the cum out. My question is if we used a condom with the sperimicde is that good does the spermicide work to kill sperm? if he didnt cum in me do i have anything to be worried about like if i could get pregnant im so nervous?? and also ive been on birth contorl for a while since i was 14 or 15 for my ireegular and very heavy periods but ive changed brands over time adn im back to yasmin but this year in jan i got my period but then stopped the Pill b/c i thought i was losing my hair so i waited till i got my period to start up agian and i only got it in june and it took 6 months to come back and then i started yasmin agian i took one full month already and im on teh 2nd month but i havent taken it at exactly the same time everyday i dont think i have skipped any days b/c i made sure i did the whole package but just not taken it at like 7pm everyday im starting to do that now though to make sure i take it at the same time daily... *Will it still work against pregnancy though if i took ti for a month and 2 wks almost already?? *Also if you swallow semen during oral sex you cannot get pregnant i heard thats true right b.c theres no where for it to go?? im sorry i was just so afraid b/c i thought i wanted it but afterwards i am so paranoid that i wont be having sex for a long time even though it was really quick im too afriad... but if he pulled out b4 cumming and his penis was dry after he took the condom out i cant get pregnant right? and also even if theres precum wouldnt that stay in teh condom? ah please help thankyou so much
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Condoms are meant to capture semen. So pulling out before ejaculation can actually increase your chances of condom breakage.
We don't really like spermicide just because most condoms don't have enough on them to be very effective.
If the condom didn't tear, (and you would have known this, because when condoms tear, they don't just get a little hole, they tend to shred) then your risk of pregnancy is minimal.
By not taking your pills at the same time everyday, you decrease the protection you get from them. So you should start making sure you take them at the same time each day.
And no, you cannot get pregnant from oral sex. Sperm have no way to get to your vagina is swallowed.
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so what should i do? im afraid b/c i cannot be pregenant now mt boyfriends had sex b4 and the other girl always begged for sex adn im too scared
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should ig et teh EC pill? b/c i thought if he didnt cum inside me thers NO chance of pregenancy and if the condom didnt tear thats means it did its job and i dont have to worry about anything right? b/c im really freaking out tis all i can think about and how it was a mistake and im nto going to do it again for a long time even though it was only like a 5 -10 min thing. it was on thurs the 17th fo august and todays the sunday 20th of august. should i owrry abotu pregnancy or since there was a condom im OK and the spermicide doesnt do much then is what your saying?.... i was starting to relax b/c i figured the condom and when he took teh condom off he was dry and i should ahve checked to see if there was fluid in teh condom but i didnt but He told me he got out b4 he cummed
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also im sorry but im very afraid.... should he have used a different condom brand b/c i knowhis cousin gave him a fresh box like a month ago he told me and it was trojan ultra thin with spericide as teh lube is that a good kind? or would that be TOO THIN to protect against pregnancy would a thicker kind he better?? but now im scaredb/c i thought as lnog as he didnt cum inside me thered be NO SPERM to get me pregant... my last period started august 1st and i had brief sex for the first time on the 17th of august so thats 17 days into my cycle is that bad? ah i cnat talk to anyone about it but im so afraid of being pregnant b/c i cannot ahve that right now adn i wont be having sex for a long time ever again i jsut cant wait a week for my period b/c i want it now
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thanks for your help so by minimal you mean to say that the condom does it job and i should be fine right b.c im at day 20 i think so i should get it by the 28th. im just nervous b/c i was my first time but if there was no cum in me then like you said its prob fine right? and also with oral sex being swallowed theres no chance of pregnancy b/c theres no way to get to the vagina?? thaknyou so much for responding so quickly all other places i've asked never answer my questions
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what condom would be best b/c i thoguht the sperimicide would jsut give added prevention. and you think i shouldnt have to worry bout anything if his penis was dry after he pulled out right.
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do you think i should be able to relax until i hopefully get my period thankyou very much im so sorry i sound like a total freak!
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Whether or not there was ejaculate doesn't matter if the condom didn't break. If the condom was intact, and you used it for all genital contact, you have no pregnancy risk.
Swallowing semen puts it in your digestive tract, not your reproductive system. The two do not meet up on the inside, and so you don't have to worry about pregnancy. You DO have to worry about sexually transmitted infections though, which can be transmitted through oral sex.
We do not recommend condoms w/ spermicide b/c it can put you at higher risk for certain STIs. Regular condoms w/ additional lube is all you need.
I do think you should relax. If you don't get your period on time, you can take a pregnancy test. Until then, you need to relax.
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Honey, relax. The chances of you getting pregnant from ANYTHING you've described here are minimal. You do not need EC, and you do not need to worry.
Again, we don't like spermicides. All it is is dish-soap, basically, and tears the cells apart. But it often won't distinguish between vaginal cells and sperm cells, and can leave you more susceptible to STD's. Besides, there ususally isn't enough on the condom to do much good.
Take a look at the link that Smurf left. You can decide what condoms sound good to you by checking it out.
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iwont need any more condoms b/c iwont be having sex again froa lnog time . i jsut cant seem to relax b/c im onyl 17 and i would not be able to deal with pregnancy and i made a mistake but your saying as long as the condom was on anywhere near my vagina its fine right b/c even if the was pre stuff the condom would have caught it? i jsut feel i cant wait until the 28th when my periods supposed to come. BUt also does it matter ti was the 16th or 17th day of my cycle?
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I'm just gonna say; My mother & one of my best friends got pregnant at 17.And the other only thing I'm gonna say is that you are a bit lucky you got it at 17.Last year there was a 10 y/o in the local village who got pregnant.
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got what at 17? im not pregnant i dont think i am .. im saying i wont be needing condoms b.c im NOT havign sex for a long time b/c im way TOO SCAREd i meant as long as the condom was on anywhere near my vagina its fine right b/c even if there was pre stuff the condom would have caught it? i jsut feel i cant wait until the 28th when my periods supposed to come b/c i wanan make sure i get my period. BUt also does it matter ti was the 16th or 17th day of my cycle?
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I'm sorry.I really just skim messages.I thought you were talking about how you were missing your period.
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oh thats ok i just was saying im not pregnant, im just afraid b/c i had my first time thurs with acondom and no ejaculating in me but im just paranoid
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i just cant seem to relax b/c i would deal with pregnancy and i shouldnt have had sex at all even if it was extremely brief. BUT what your saying is as long as the condom was on anywhere near my vagina its fine right and there is NO pregnancy risk?? BEcause even if there was precum the condom would have caught it? i just feel i cant wait until the 28th-30th when my periods supposed to come. BUt also does it matter it was the 16th or 17th day of my cycle when i had sex? thanks for the help im starting to calm down now b/c as you said i should ahve NO risk if the condom was on and i dont need to use an EC pill to be certain there is no pregnancy
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i meant i would not be able to deal with pregnancy woops TYPO and i meant i cant wait for my period to come by teh 28th-30th b/c i want it now to calm my fears
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